Thursday, May 26, 2011

05/26/11 - World Magazine

The cover of World Magazine splash that within these pages they will look at "relationship and marriage 2011".

I flipped open to page 41 and in bold quotes: "If you are dedicated to emotional purity you are afraid. You either risk nothing or you risk everything." Hannah Farver

I couldn't agree more.

If you are looking to the form of emotional purity to keep you pure, you will fear. A focus on rules will lead you to bondage to the outward appearances of what you think purity should be.

If you are totally and completely trusting your emotional needs to God Almighty, you will rest in His mighty hands. There is no fear, there is no risk. You are safe.

I've been "preaching" the heart of emotional purity for years. Although, at times I feel a bit misunderstood.

Emotional Purity is:

A humble desire to honor God in our relationships.
To surrender our emotional needs to God,
whether married or single, for the sake of the gospel.

It's not a form, it's not courtship, it's not control, it's not fear, it's not manipulation.

Emotional purity is: heart driven, living authentic lives, there's a confident, calm trust in God, it's a Christ focus heart.

So yes, you will fear if you are dedicated to the FORM of emotional purity. But if you're heart is dedicated to Christ alone you will not may look the same as someone dedicated to the form, but your heart is not the same.


Anonymous said...

That was beautifully put. Thank you for posting that.

Wendy said...

Good thoughts, Heather.

Wendy said...

I am a little confused. What then is the point of saying "Emotional Purity" at all? Why not call it "Trusting God?" To me you cannot have the concept of emotional purity without it being a standard to strive for such as with physical purity (which is actually detailed out in the Bible as a legitimate standard to strive for). It's like you are saying Emotional purity isn't emotional purity. It just seems to me like a pointless concept designed to bring confusion and that might be why you are being misunderstood.

Heather Patenaude said...


I have been misunderstood because people have tried to attach rules to emotional purity. Making it a legalistic way of behaving.

Yes, trusting God with your relationships and in my book I try to outline some ways that someone might safeguard their heart in emotional ways.

As with anything we could say, "Trust God", but sometimes it's helpful with a person gives some practical, tangible ways to do that.

Some we agree with and work for us, others don't.

It's not a concept, as much as a new way at looking at "guard your heart".