It's a powerful talk and I've listened to it at least 4 or 5 times.
She uses a word picture, I've used with other friends as I gently confront in sin. When we desire to confront someone I think we often are afraid to offend them and to come across as judgmental and prideful.
But here's what Nancy says when she wanted to warn a friend in an emotional affair:
"Sandy if my neighbor's house were on fire, I wouldn't worry about offending them, hurting their feelings or waking them up in the middle of the night.
I would go, and I would not be nice. I would not be kind. I would not be calm. I would not be soft. I would go screaming and yelling at the top of my lungs to warn them of the danger and to try to help them get out of that house. Sandy, I've got to tell you, you are in a burning house and I want to help you get out."
How many of us have friends in "burning houses"? We see the smoke and the flames, but we're too scared to hurt their feelings that we don't say anything. We don't want to offend or come across mean. So we watch their house burn to ashes.
May this not be so! May be we the Church that can help our friends out of harmful, hurtful, situations! Don't sit by and watch your friend do things that throw kindling on their fire, help them out!
Maybe you're burning your house down. I will pray that God will bring along a friend to help you out of the smoke and fire, TODAY! Do not let one more day pass that you live in this burning house!!
The first contrast that Mary lays out between a wise and wild woman is: Heart: What Holds First Place in Her Affections.
"A wise woman gives the Lord Jesus Christ first place in her heart. Her feet follow the inclination of her heart, so she makes cautious, wise, godly decisions about her relationships with men."
A wild woman's "relationship is peripheral, shoved off to the side somewhere."
Mary lays out a strong argument that the heart affections is the very core of the difference between a wise and wild woman. A woman who's heart is fully focused on Christ will act, think, respond to men, and live her life with an ever mindful presents of Jesus.
She makes the point that a right heart is not as a result of human effort, but a gift from God. So in order to become a wise woman we must recognize this as an out working on the Holy Spirit in our life.
"As we become more and more holy, we become less and less tolerant of any hint of evil in our thoughts, words, or actions toward men." AMEN! The closer we come to the heart of God, the less we are able to put up with the filth the world tries to sell us!
If we start with the heart, many of the other points of contrast will fall into either being wise or being wild!
What insights did you get this week from "Girls Gone Wise" this week?
Yesterday in my bible reading I came across this verse: Do not be children in your thinking. Be infants in evil, but in your thinking be mature. 1 Cor. 14:20
There are many verses about the mind, thinking, and our thought life. So many I am sure books have been written about this subject. (I've not looked into that, these are just my thoughts that stemmed from reading that verse.)
I've longed believed that people can get mentally stuck when they have some type of emotional trauma. For example, if a young girl loses her mother at the age of 12, she'll tend to emotional stay as a 12 year old. If a person doesn't work towards emotional maturity after emotional trauma they can emotionally stay at the age of the incident. (This is just Heather's theory.)
In the years that I first thought about this concept it's proven itself in many people. (I guess you can say I enjoy the study of people.) I've seen someone who had a trauma at the age of 7, emotionally respond in a pressure situation at the age of 35 like a 7 year old.
We're told over and over in scripture to "renew our mind" (Rm. 12:2) "take captive our thoughts" (1 Cor. 10:5), let the Lord "search our mind" (Jer. 17:10), "prepare our minds" (1 Pet. 1:13) and we're told to have a "sound mind" (2 Tim. 1:7).
Much of our Christian walk starts in our mind and in our thoughts. How crafty is satan then to attack us in our thoughts. To make it much easier to stay mentally immature than to grow towards being mature in our thinking. Obvious if Paul felt this was important enough to tell the Corinthians (who were having church unity issues) it is something that is key and helpful in our growth as believers.
What do you think of this concept? How do we grow in our thinking? (Maybe we'll all add to another blog post about this.)
When it comes to friendships I think of two verses:
1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals"
Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another
Your friendship have the possibility of drawing you closer to Christ or pulling you away from Him.
Examine your friendships, ask: Does this person cause me to become more like Christ or less like Christ, in your thoughts, actions, and attitudes?
We are called to bring people to Christ, but if a friend is causing you to "corrupt good morals", then maybe it would be wise to limit your time with that person and find more friends that will "sharpen" you!
We're going to be looking at each chapter of "Girls Gone Wise" by Mary Kassian, one by one on Wednesdays. Each week I am going to share Mary Kassian's Video blog on the chapter we're looking at. I will also share the study questions Mary has posted. Finally, I will share my insights on the chapter we've looked at!
Do you cling to Christ? I mean when life is hard is your first response to cling to Him? What does that look like?
The deeper I grow in my walk with Christ, the more layers He peels away, the more I realize how totally dependent I am upon Him. Yes, Christianity is a crutch! I don't know how people walk through this life without that crutch.
Call me weak, I am. Call me foolish, I am. Call me needy, I am.
I cling to Jesus when life's storm brew! They will brew, for all of us.
My rock is Christ. My foundation is my Lord.
I cling to the Word. I am thirsty for more of Him, less of my will, my flesh. I want to get out of the way, let Him have His way with my life.
Clinging to Christ is realizing how much you need Him. How life is meaningless without Him.
I am not claiming to be perfect, far from it. I fall so short. It's impossible to please Him, our Creator. Oh the wonderful grace! I want my every moment to live in the grace of God. To not try to think anything is because of me or because of my talent. It's all Him! I don't want to think my life is blessed because of anything I do! I am blessed because of His grace and His grace alone! Thank you Lord for grace!
I want to cling even more to my Jesus, no matter what He allows to come into my life!
Why are we so quick to throw away God's blessings and exchange it for less than He has for us?
I listened/watched much of Passion 2011 through a live stream and one of the speakers talked about Jacob and Esau and how Esau exchanged his blessing for a bowl of stew.
His message was pointed, powerful and boiled down to our appetites. Our appetites for power, food, sex, approval, love, acceptance, beauty, and a host of other things can control us if we're not surrendered to the power of the Holy Spirit.
Those unrestrained appetites take away the blessings of God. They replace the sweet, pure blessings for a lie: ugly, painful, destroying lie!
In our "I want it now" culture we've lost sight of the beauty of waiting on God's timing, in so many areas of our life. We've exchanged the truth for a lie and we suffer the consequences of our choices.
Don't settle for second best, wait for the blessings of God and the peace that comes from an appetite surrendered to His control!
My husband and I are working on FamilyLife Today: The Art of Marriage. This is a do-it-yourself dvd marriage conference. The world premiere is Feb 11th and 12th at churches all around the globe (mostly in the states).
Maybe you're in a serious dating relationship, let me suggest you go.
Maybe you're getting married, this would be an awesome way to start off a marriage.
Maybe you have a great marriage, this would just make it better.
Maybe you and your mate are facing issues, this conference could be the beginning of some positive changes!
I often hear this phrase from worn out moms, tired college students, stretched singles, and over committed empty nesters.
Did God really call His children to be on the brink of exhaustion all the time?
Yes, there's going to be seasons and situations that sleep will elude us, but should this be a constant theme throughout our lives?
As I said in a post last month, the safest place to be is in God's will. When we're in God's will I believe He's equipped us with enough energy to handle the demands of our calling.
Often times I think we take on commitments without pausing and seeing if this fits in God's will for our life. If it really belongs in our calling and purpose for whatever season we're in at the time. We piles our calendars full and stack our schedules with lots of noble tasks, but tasks that wear us out physically, mentally and emotionally.
This year I challenge you to pause before you say "yes" to anything: ministry, bible study, extra college class, relationship commitments, and just about anything you're being asked to do or feel a desire to do. Filter it through, "Does this fit in God's will for my life?"
You may find yourself saying "no" to more things, and "yes" to more of the things God has equipped you to do, which may allow more rest in your life!
(How do you know God's will for your life? Romans 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.)