Monday, January 31, 2011

01/31/11 - Bracing for the Blizzard

Well, looks like Tuesday night into Wednesday we're getting a blizzard!

18 to 24 inches of snow!

Bring on a snow day!

Got our food stocked up and we're good to go!

Friday, January 28, 2011

01/28/11 - Call for the Wailing Women

Last night I re-listened to Nancy Leigh DeMoss' talk: Call for the Wailing Women

It's a powerful talk and I've listened to it at least 4 or 5 times.

She uses a word picture, I've used with other friends as I gently confront in sin. When we desire to confront someone I think we often are afraid to offend them and to come across as judgmental and prideful.

But here's what Nancy says when she wanted to warn a friend in an emotional affair:

"Sandy if my neighbor's house were on fire, I wouldn't worry about offending them, hurting their feelings or waking them up in the middle of the night.
I would go, and I would not be nice. I would not be kind. I would not be calm. I would not be soft. I would go screaming and yelling at the top of my lungs to warn them of the danger and to try to help them get out of that house. Sandy, I've got to tell you, you are in a burning house and I want to help you get out."

How many of us have friends in "burning houses"? We see the smoke and the flames, but we're too scared to hurt their feelings that we don't say anything. We don't want to offend or come across mean. So we watch their house burn to ashes.

May this not be so! May be we the Church that can help our friends out of harmful, hurtful, situations! Don't sit by and watch your friend do things that throw kindling on their fire, help them out!

Maybe you're burning your house down. I will pray that God will bring along a friend to help you out of the smoke and fire, TODAY! Do not let one more day pass that you live in this burning house!!

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

01/26/11 - Girls Gone Wise Wednesday

Here's the book Blog for this week's chapter: Swept off your Feet

And here's this weeks: Questions

The first contrast that Mary lays out between a wise and wild woman is: Heart: What Holds First Place in Her Affections.

"A wise woman gives the Lord Jesus Christ first place in her heart. Her feet follow the inclination of her heart, so she makes cautious, wise, godly decisions about her relationships with men."

A wild woman's "relationship is peripheral, shoved off to the side somewhere."

Mary lays out a strong argument that the heart affections is the very core of the difference between a wise and wild woman. A woman who's heart is fully focused on Christ will act, think, respond to men, and live her life with an ever mindful presents of Jesus.

She makes the point that a right heart is not as a result of human effort, but a gift from God. So in order to become a wise woman we must recognize this as an out working on the Holy Spirit in our life.

"As we become more and more holy, we become less and less tolerant of any hint of evil in our thoughts, words, or actions toward men." AMEN! The closer we come to the heart of God, the less we are able to put up with the filth the world tries to sell us!

If we start with the heart, many of the other points of contrast will fall into either being wise or being wild!

What insights did you get this week from "Girls Gone Wise" this week?

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

01/25/11 - Mature Thinking

Of course I've been thinking about thinking since my post yesterday.

What is mature thinking?

I think of two key elements in mature thinking:

1) Self-Control

2) Selflessness

When someone posses these two qualities in their thinking they will have actions, words, thoughts, and behaviors that are mature.

What do you think?

Monday, January 24, 2011

01/24/11 - Thinking

Yesterday in my bible reading I came across this verse: Do not be children in your thinking. Be infants in evil, but in your thinking be mature. 1 Cor. 14:20

There are many verses about the mind, thinking, and our thought life. So many I am sure books have been written about this subject. (I've not looked into that, these are just my thoughts that stemmed from reading that verse.)

I've longed believed that people can get mentally stuck when they have some type of emotional trauma. For example, if a young girl loses her mother at the age of 12, she'll tend to emotional stay as a 12 year old. If a person doesn't work towards emotional maturity after emotional trauma they can emotionally stay at the age of the incident. (This is just Heather's theory.)

In the years that I first thought about this concept it's proven itself in many people. (I guess you can say I enjoy the study of people.) I've seen someone who had a trauma at the age of 7, emotionally respond in a pressure situation at the age of 35 like a 7 year old.

We're told over and over in scripture to "renew our mind" (Rm. 12:2) "take captive our thoughts" (1 Cor. 10:5), let the Lord "search our mind" (Jer. 17:10), "prepare our minds" (1 Pet. 1:13) and we're told to have a "sound mind" (2 Tim. 1:7).

Much of our Christian walk starts in our mind and in our thoughts. How crafty is satan then to attack us in our thoughts. To make it much easier to stay mentally immature than to grow towards being mature in our thinking. Obvious if Paul felt this was important enough to tell the Corinthians (who were having church unity issues) it is something that is key and helpful in our growth as believers.

What do you think of this concept? How do we grow in our thinking? (Maybe we'll all add to another blog post about this.)

Friday, January 21, 2011

01/21/11 - Unplanned

There's a new book called: Unplanned by Abby Johnson. Abby worked at Planned Parenthood and was asked, after 8 years of working there, to assist in her first ultrasound abortion.

I've only read the first chapter and can't wait to read the rest!

Read this chapter and you'll know why I am firmly pro-life!

Thursday, January 20, 2011

01/20/11 - Friendships

When it comes to friendships I think of two verses:

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals"

Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another

Your friendship have the possibility of drawing you closer to Christ or pulling you away from Him.

Examine your friendships, ask: Does this person cause me to become more like Christ or less like Christ, in your thoughts, actions, and attitudes?

We are called to bring people to Christ, but if a friend is causing you to "corrupt good morals", then maybe it would be wise to limit your time with that person and find more friends that will "sharpen" you!

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

01/19/11 - Girls Gone Wise Wednesday

Girls Gone Wise Wednesday

We're going to be looking at each chapter of "Girls Gone Wise" by Mary Kassian, one by one on Wednesdays. Each week I am going to share Mary Kassian's Video blog on the chapter we're looking at. I will also share the study questions Mary has posted. Finally, I will share my insights on the chapter we've looked at!

You can also go to Mary's website and download a personal journal for this walk through: Girls Gone Wise.

This week's chapter is: Wild Thing.

I will share some of the things I underlined in this first chapter and then I hope you'll comment or share what were some of your insights!

"There's a measure of Girl-Gone-Wildness in all of us."

Mary has some hope for us as we read:

1) Grow in spiritual discernment and see the difference between wild and wise.

2) Say yes to God's ideas about womanhood and not conform to the world's pattern.

3) Become more biblical savvy and godly in the way you think and how you conduct yourself in relationships.

We will spend the rest of the book in Proverbs 7, which paints a picture of a Girl-Gone-Wild. Mary will contrast a wise vs. wild woman!

"If we ever hope to be wise when it comes to male-female relationships we need to align our thoughts and actions with His."

"A Girl-Gone-Wise is a woman who has committed herself to a relationship with Jesus Christ and who relies on Scripture to understand how she ought to conduct herself in her relationships with men."

"'Wild' is what we are whenever we disregard God and rely instead on the world's advice, or on what seems right in our own eyes."

"So many of us are living with the brokenness, dysfunction, pain, and confusion that come from having gone wild."

As I've read through this chapter I can see that as we dig deeper into this subject it will peel away layers that easily grow in my heart with how I need to seek "Lady Wisdom" in all I do!

You can find Mary on Facebook at: Girls Gone Wise

What are your thoughts?

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

01/18/11 - Clinging

Do you cling to Christ? I mean when life is hard is your first response to cling to Him? What does that look like?

The deeper I grow in my walk with Christ, the more layers He peels away, the more I realize how totally dependent I am upon Him. Yes, Christianity is a crutch! I don't know how people walk through this life without that crutch.

Call me weak, I am. Call me foolish, I am. Call me needy, I am.

I cling to Jesus when life's storm brew! They will brew, for all of us.

My rock is Christ. My foundation is my Lord.

I cling to the Word. I am thirsty for more of Him, less of my will, my flesh. I want to get out of the way, let Him have His way with my life.

Clinging to Christ is realizing how much you need Him. How life is meaningless without Him.

I am not claiming to be perfect, far from it. I fall so short. It's impossible to please Him, our Creator. Oh the wonderful grace! I want my every moment to live in the grace of God. To not try to think anything is because of me or because of my talent. It's all Him! I don't want to think my life is blessed because of anything I do! I am blessed because of His grace and His grace alone! Thank you Lord for grace!

I want to cling even more to my Jesus, no matter what He allows to come into my life!

Monday, January 17, 2011

01/17/11 - Accountability

Who holds you accountable?

On a recent broadcast of Revive Our Hearts, Nancy Leigh DeMoss shared that she gave a list of questions that her closest friends can ask her anytime.

Here were her questions:
  • Are you having devotions, or are you having devotion? How was your time with the Lord this morning?
  • How's your spirit? Are you uptight, anxious?
  • Are you serving the Lord with gladness?
  • How are your spiritual and emotional gauges, and what are you doing to refill them?
  • Are there any areas that you've been teaching or proclaiming something that you're not living?
  • Is there anything you've been doing or not doing that you would not want others to know?
  • Are you faking it? Are you leaving a better impression on others than is honestly true?
  • Are there any areas of your life where you're not obeying what you know God wants you to do? Is there anything you need to repent of?
  • Is your heart tender and responsive to the Lord?
  • And I might add that question that I heard a year ago at this luncheon. Has the pace of ministry outraced the pace of intimacy in your life?

What would your questions be? And do you have someone who you trust to ask you these at any time?

Saturday, January 15, 2011

01/15/11 - Girls Gone Wise

On Wednesday I am starting a new book "club" with Mary Kassian's book: Girls Gone Wise in a World Gone Wild.

I hope you'll join me by getting your own copy of this powerful book about the wildness in all us women!

This book is for old, young, married, single, widowed, divorced and every woman in between!

This will also help young men know the type of wife to look for!

So join me for "Girls Gone Wise Wednesdays"!

Thursday, January 13, 2011

01/13/11 - Blessings

Why are we so quick to throw away God's blessings and exchange it for less than He has for us?

I listened/watched much of Passion 2011 through a live stream and one of the speakers talked about Jacob and Esau and how Esau exchanged his blessing for a bowl of stew.

His message was pointed, powerful and boiled down to our appetites. Our appetites for power, food, sex, approval, love, acceptance, beauty, and a host of other things can control us if we're not surrendered to the power of the Holy Spirit.

Those unrestrained appetites take away the blessings of God. They replace the sweet, pure blessings for a lie: ugly, painful, destroying lie!

In our "I want it now" culture we've lost sight of the beauty of waiting on God's timing, in so many areas of our life. We've exchanged the truth for a lie and we suffer the consequences of our choices.

Don't settle for second best, wait for the blessings of God and the peace that comes from an appetite surrendered to His control!

Saturday, January 8, 2011

01/08/11 - The Art of Marriage

My husband and I are working on FamilyLife Today: The Art of Marriage. This is a do-it-yourself dvd marriage conference. The world premiere is Feb 11th and 12th at churches all around the globe (mostly in the states).

Maybe you're in a serious dating relationship, let me suggest you go.

Maybe you're getting married, this would be an awesome way to start off a marriage.

Maybe you have a great marriage, this would just make it better.

Maybe you and your mate are facing issues, this conference could be the beginning of some positive changes!

Check out: for more info!

Click HERE to see if there's one in your area!

Or check out the Art of Marriage that my husband and I are hosting: The Art of Marriage, Christ Community Church

(I'd love to see some of my Croatian readers bring the Art of Marriage to Croatia!)

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

01/04/11 - Nominal Christians

I watched most of Passion 2011 via the live stream. On facebook I posted one of John Piper's quotes and this was a question I received. How would you respond?

Piper: Millions of nominal Christians have never experienced the fundamental alteration of the foundation of their happiness Passion 2011
16 hours ago · · ·
    • Will DeHaan What's a nominal Christian?
      10 hours ago ·
    • Heather 'Paulsen' Patenaude Someone who has not experienced the fundamental alteration of the foundation of their happiness from self to God.
      4 hours ago ·
    • Heather 'Paulsen' Patenaude Nominal Christians give Christians a bad reputation. They haven't humbled themselves to see what their true position before God is, so they sit in pride and judgement of others while they claim to have the love of Christ. Christ came to seek the poor, sinners, scum of the earth, not country club goers!
      3 hours ago ·
    • Heather 'Paulsen' Patenaude
      Nominal Christians haven't fully embraced a release of themselves. They still want to protect their reputation, their money, their homes, their children, their ego, their pride...they've not realized that being a Christian is total death toself, to expectations.
      Again they give Christianity a bad rap and it drives me batty! I may just have to blog this ;-) You got me thinking!
      3 hours ago ·
    • Heather 'Paulsen' Patenaude Nominal Christians don't filter their actions, thoughts, behavior, attitudes through a biblical world view. They still operate under the secular, postmodern world view that permeates our culture.
      3 hours ago ·
    • Heather 'Paulsen' Patenaude Nominal Christians think that if you do the things know question every movie you watch, what books you read, what TV you watch, what you say, what you think, how you act all through a biblical world view...well you'd be a bit too extreme ;-)
      3 hours ago ·

Monday, January 3, 2011

01/03/11 - "I'm just so tired!"

I often hear this phrase from worn out moms, tired college students, stretched singles, and over committed empty nesters.

Did God really call His children to be on the brink of exhaustion all the time?

Yes, there's going to be seasons and situations that sleep will elude us, but should this be a constant theme throughout our lives?

As I said in a post last month, the safest place to be is in God's will. When we're in God's will I believe He's equipped us with enough energy to handle the demands of our calling.

Often times I think we take on commitments without pausing and seeing if this fits in God's will for our life. If it really belongs in our calling and purpose for whatever season we're in at the time. We piles our calendars full and stack our schedules with lots of noble tasks, but tasks that wear us out physically, mentally and emotionally.

This year I challenge you to pause before you say "yes" to anything: ministry, bible study, extra college class, relationship commitments, and just about anything you're being asked to do or feel a desire to do. Filter it through, "Does this fit in God's will for my life?"

You may find yourself saying "no" to more things, and "yes" to more of the things God has equipped you to do, which may allow more rest in your life!

(How do you know God's will for your life? Romans 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.)

Happy 2011!