Wednesday, March 10, 2010

03/10/10 - Newlyweds or Getting Married

It's hard to imagine that John and I will celebrate our 7th wedding anniversary this summer. It's all gone so fast!

If you're newly married or getting married I have felt lead to share this advice. Take it for what it's worth!

For the first year of marriage:

1) Try and take the first year of marriage "off". If it's possible step away from ministries or a lot of extra activities that don't include both of you. Try to use as much time as you can to cultivate your relationship.

2) Don't worry about being in a "bubble". There's a reason newlyweds get into that bubble. They need to "cleave" to each other and it takes time to "leave" and can be intense. You won't always be in a bubble...actually it will "pop" all on it's own and you'll be able to give more of yourself to others after that first year or so.

3) Turn the TV (or computer) off that first year of marriage. Play cards, read a book together, giggle, and just connect with each other.

4) Try to have at least three weekend get aways throughout the year.

5) Communicate, communicate, communicate

6) Make your bedroom your married "sanctuary", a special place that has your fingerprints all over it. Let it tell your story and be a calm, quiet, safe place to connect as a married couple.

7) Have fun, be silly, and enjoy living with your best friend!

That first year is foundational and takes time to begin to cultivate and grow your marriage. Learning to cleave to each may not come naturally, so work on it! You won't regret the time you spend!

Have fun!

2 comments:

MInTheGap said...

These are some great ideas-- some of them should go well past the first year of marriage.

Looks like I have a little time on you, as we'll be celebrating #9 this summer. Where did the time go?

A HopeFul Romantic said...

I'm not anywhere near marriage age, but I love these! It's never to late to tuck away skills you may need for a lasting, godly marriage! Thanks, I'll remember these one day! =D