Sunday, February 28, 2010

02/28/10 - 5 Keys to Healthy Friendship

On Wednesday night I spoke at our local Teen MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group. (Me...who strongly dislikes snow driving...was out in this crazy snow storm that dumped about 5 inches in 2 1/2 hours!)

Anyway, I shared 5 tips of healthy friendships with these young moms. As I talked with the leader we felt that giving these girls some tools to have healthy friendships would make them better moms and friends.

I am going to spend the next few days sharing those keys! I feel like these are healthy keys for any friendship and relationship!

First, we were created for relationships. We're all going to be in relationships, some will be healthy, some will be a challenge, and some will be smothering. We long for emotional closeness, especial us women ;-)

Being able to identify healthy relationships will help us as we navigate the waters of friendships.

The first key, of five keys to a healthy friendship is, selflessness.

Our natural tendency is to be self centered in relationships. Having selflessness is having no concern for ourselves, it's doing what is best for the other person.

We value our friends needs above our own. We have no expectations, but expect to give of ourselves.

When we are with people who are selfless it's down right refreshing! When two people are selfless with each other it can provide for a deeply satisfying friendship.

In college the Lord impressed upon me how selfish I was with friends. I saw how when I was in a conversation I never really listened but was just thinking of what I wanted to say when the person was done. As I began to break this, I found actually listening to my friends brought about greater satisfaction in my friendship!

How easy is it to be selfless with our friends? Is this an area you struggle with?

We'll look at key two tomorrow!

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

02/23/10 - It's a girl issue as well

I've had a few people comment (on my facebook page) about how porn is not just a guy issue. I want to say that in writing my last post I was aware that it's also a girl issue, but my heart was lead to write to young men.

But, I do believe this issue is far deeper and wider than most of us would believe. Men and women find this sin of lust to be powerful!

Not only is it powerful, but one can feel such shame and guilt they don't share their sin with others, then keep it in the dark and let it grow.

All sin is sin...this just is a sin that can have some major consequences.

Monday, February 22, 2010

02/21/10 - Porn resource

After my post this morning someone sent me this link: Porn Again Christian

I am praying for every single guy who is reading my post, who feels convicted, and who wants help out of this sinful habit!

Sunday, February 21, 2010

02/21/10 - Porn

I am sick of porn! No, I don't look at it myself, but I am so sick and tired of hearing all the effects that porn has on the lives of God's children. Makes my stomach SICK!

Guy...do you know the issues that will come in your life if you don't actively try to get rid of this sin in your life? Do you see how it totally disrespects your wife or future wife? Do you see how it totally disrespects women? Do you see how it perverts your view of women and sex?

Oh please I pray that you seek accountability! There are websites that send an e-mail to an accountability partner whenever you look at porn on your computer. Do whatever you can to get it out of your life!!!

I've heard women share the pain of finding their husbands looking at porn...even something as common as the swimsuit edition of Sports Illustrated.

Guys...purge this from your life. Do whatever you have to do! Fight for purity! Fight for it! Long for it! Fight for holiness!

Don't hid this sin, expose it! When you bring it into the light it breaks the hold it has on your life. Speak it...admit it, "I am addicted to porn!" Can you not go a week without looking at it? If you can't stop looking at it, then it's an issue.

Married men...oh my heart is so heavy with how this issue effects your marriage, your wife, your kids, and your walk with the Lord. It gets in the way of everything. It's an underlying issue to many problems in your marriage.

Satan knows your pull. He makes it so easy...the Internet makes it so easy!

Oh I pray for you guys who are looking at porn, I pray it makes you sick, I pray you see it for the sin it is, I pray you long to be free from it in your life. Don't ruin your marriage, your life, your kids!

Don't take this lightly!

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

02/16/10 - One of those weeks

I'm just having one of those tiring mommy weeks. My boys have all been sick with coughs and colds. I've been up two or three times a night. I've been sick myself. I'm worn out.

These are the tough moments of life, but I have to know that one day I'll sleep through the night and one day my kids will be grown. It won't be long till I'm an empty nester, wondering where the years went.

My single years are now a blur to me. What used to seem like painfully long time to wait for a husband and children are not a distant memory.

Those days were hard, but I am thankful I enjoyed that time. God used it to prepare me for these days. He is my constant. He sustains me through it all.

Each season of life will present different challenges. Don't let those challenges keep you jealous of others. Don't let those challenges distract you from knowing and clinging to God. Don't let those challenges keep you from staying focused.

Keep pouring your life out to others. It's not about you. It's not about me. It's about giving God glory no matter what life throws your way.

I was drinking a diet coke from McDonalds and the cup read "Thirst for Glory". This cup has Olympic pictures and a call to "go for the gold." We're not to thirst for our own glory, but for His glory. Keep that as your focus and these life challenges will fade in the background!

Monday, February 15, 2010

02/15/10 - Olympics

Have you watched any of the Olympics? Every time they're on I always think the same thing, "WOW...how do these people do that?"

The hours upon hours of training that go into a few minutes, or in some cases a few seconds, in the Olympics seems so amazing to me.

Aren't we to be in training? To receive the "prize" of everlasting life. How many hours a day are you in training?

Thursday, February 4, 2010

02/04/10 - Spam Comments

I am so tired of getting spam comments! So I am making you have to enter a code to leave a comment. Personally I'd rather not have to make it so you have to enter a code...but it's because of all the spam I am receiving these days. We'll see if it helps, if not, I'll remove the code.

I must get about 5 a day that I just reject...just gets a bit annoying!

Thanks for understanding!

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

02/03/10 - Kards by Kristi

I love to be able to encourage and support young women and I want to point you to this new "kard" company my friend Kristi has started!

Kards by Kristi

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

02/02/10 - Home

Last week my family took a mini vacation to the Dells in Wisconsin...what a great trip. I posted pictures on my personal blog: www.xanga.com/patenaude

I didn't want to come home, I wanted to stay a few more days, however when I woke up in the morning with a stiff back and neck I did look forward to getting back to my own bed and pillow.

The first night back in my own bed I snuggled in and sighed..I was home. It hit me then, this world is not my home. I shouldn't be comfortable in this environment because I am not experiences the benefits of "home". How I long for heaven!

Knowing that the only thing I can take with me to heaven is my children, my heart and focus remains on teaching them the beauty of knowing and loving God in a deeply personally way!