Friday, December 31, 2010
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
God has continued to bless us with his GRACE, for which we are so undeserving!
Rest: We were able to take two vacations (one mini) up to the Dells. Vacations are a perfect time to bond as a family, and we were able to make some memories to last a life time!
Academics: This year we continued home schooling and have been able to enjoy watching the boys grow in wisdom, knowledge, and understanding.
Couponing: This year can be characterized by a year that we learned the art of “super couponing”. It’s been a fun way to save money!
Every day life is pretty basic. Often at the store when people see we have three boys we hear, “You have your hands full.” Yes, we do, but we wouldn’t want it any other way!
Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
John, Heather, Miles, Luke & Clark
(our Christmas card and letter this year)
Friday, December 17, 2010
Monday, December 13, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
- Do I ever exaggerate the truth?
- When sharing a story do I paint myself in a better light?
- When sharing a story do I paint another person in a worse light?
- When filling out forms (taxes, documents, etc) do I always share the correct information?
- When talking to my parents do I always tell them the things they need to know before make a decision, or do I leave out details in order to get my way?
- Have I ever covered up part of the story out of shame or guilt?
- Have I ever told someone, "Sure I got this or that done!" when you really didn't but plan on getting it done?
- When talking to my mate do I share thing that he or she should know about?
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
(God is promoting me to use this currently as I am learning self-control and selflessness!)
Monday, November 29, 2010
Friday, November 26, 2010
Thursday, November 25, 2010
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Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Monday, November 22, 2010
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Friday, November 19, 2010
Thursday, November 18, 2010
In the 60’s feminists used a process of “consciousness raising” to gather women together, talk about their problems, and stir a rebel against men or the establishment. Their goal was to make women feel connected to other women in their issues or problems.
As Mary Kassian put it on her blog: “40 years ago
So the early feminist used consciousness raising as a way to gather women together to rebel. They'd assemble a small group of women and begin to complain about men and the oppression they felt. They’d complain about how unhappy they were “just” being moms, wives or second class to men in the workplace. They’d stir other women up and get them to be angry and upset along side of them. Then a woman who wasn’t really upset or unhappy would become unhappy with her life. (Here’s Wikipedia’s take on Consciousness Raising)
Since I first became aware of this tool: “consciousness raising” I hadn’t thought too much about it, other than it did work in the movement of the feminists. I mean think about it, through these C.R. groups an entire generation of women radically altered the culture we live in!
But lately I can’t help but think that consciousness raising is still taking place among women and not just in the feminist movement, but in our churches.
Women are created for fellowship and we long to be in community and I believe God created us this way. So we can easily fall pry to this dangerous outcome of fellowship.
We must ask ourselves some tough questions about our fellowship with each other and if we are stirring each other up towards godliness or selfishness.
When we get together with other women, are we prone to complain about our life, our children, our husband, our state of singleness, or our unbearable circumstances? Our complaining can lead to others complaining. Then we don’t feel so alone or isolated. We feel justified! Justified to be upset! Justified to be self centered!
If our goal in fellowship with sisters in Christ is to feel justified in sin, to look for affirmation in others rather than God, and if we’re not pointing each other to the Lord, then is what we’re doing any different than consciousness raising of the 60’s?
There is nothing wrong with sharing our burdens or concerns with our friends, but our aim in relationships is to be mutually building each other up, encouraging each other, and pointing each other towards Christ.
A fellow mom told me recently that she felt convicted after a play date with another mom. She said, “We spent the whole time complaining about our different situations and after that time together I felt worse.” She explained how she wrote her friend a note, asking to be forgiven for not bring them both to God’s Word and seeking His counsel together. This realization helped her see how easily you can fall pry to the consciousness raising of the early feminists.
Let us be women of love, good works and encouragement!
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Last week I bought a sign that says: Simplify. I hung it in my kitchen as a reminder to live intentionally simple!
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Friday, November 12, 2010
As I labour through the storm.
You have called me to this passage,
and I'll follow, though I'm worn.
May this journey bring a blessing,
May I rise on wings of faith;
And at the end of my heart's testing,
With Your likeness let me wake.
Jesus guide me through the tempest;
Keep my spirit staid and sure.
When the midnight meets the morning,
Let me love You even more.
Let the treasures of the trial
Form within me as I go -
And at the end of this long passage,
Let me leave them at Your throne.
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Monday, November 8, 2010
Saturday, November 6, 2010
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Monday, November 1, 2010
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Friday, October 29, 2010
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Before I got married, I thought that: once married, I'd not lose that emotional closeness with my mate. But I realized, very quickly, that remaining emotional intimate with each other was going to take two things: intentionality and a commitment to our friendship.
Fostering a relationship and friendship with anyone takes time, but with your mate it's a bit easy to become complacent. So you start taking little turns away from each other.
Then 15 years later you look at your mate and it's like looking at a stranger. One may ask, "How did we get here?"
In most cases it wasn't a giant step away from your mate, but millions of little times you slowly turned your heart away. This can happen without even realizing it.
John and I have tried to put some things in place to remain emotionally intimate.
1) We have regular date nights. Now often times this happens in our home, after the boys go to bed. We'll set aside a night, shut down the computer, turn off the phones, and have a date right here at home. Of course, we do get to go out, but at home dates nights are easier in this season of life.
2) We communicate with each other, yes we talk. And we don't just talk about work or the kids, we talk about life, what we're thinking, how we're growing, what we're processing through, and everything in between. We don't let anger foster or grow, we nip it when it happens.
3) When we have our date nights we have a rule: we are not allowed to talk about the kids. The first time we ever left our oldest for a date we said, "Let's not talk about Miles at all." We didn't realize at the time how important that would be, but over the years I look forward to non-kid talk with my hubby.
4) We both feel that a happy, satisfied marriage will take two people completely selfless! Oh so true! When John's looking out for me and I'm looking out for him....it's a wonderful thing.
5) We prayer often for God to protect our marriage. We pray for a hedge of protection around us and we ask God to revel any area we're not safe guarding our marriage. This really is the most important thing we can do!
How about you married ladies...what do you do to foster emotional closeness in your marriage?
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
"I feel like the "church" is full of ungodly people and are the leaven that God speaks of in 1Corinthians 5:6 and 5:9. It corrupts the whole conception of faith that misleads whole churches. I believe we are living in "strange" times but God is always working and never sleeps. He is shaking our "church" group and sifting out who is not His at the moment. It has been a strong "revival" and the experience has been painful but is building faith in those who are truly His!! I wonder what you believe about the people who claim to be God's people? Do you think that there are few on this narrow road and not the masses that claim they "believe" in Christ? I would like to hear your honest views on this. I can appreciate the topic of emotional purity since I have seen so much destruction due to the lack of it."
I am thankful for what God is doing in your local church and how my heart cries for this movement of His Spirit in the entire body of Christ, but we do see many christians that are complacent. We see in Isaiah 32:9-15 a call to "rise up complacent ones".
To be honest with you, I've spent too much of my adult life frustrated and annoyed at complacent Christians. People who honor God with their mouths, but not their lives. Who attend church on Sunday, but are just as ungodly as the culture around them.
Lately God is impressing on my heart a need to stop judging, stop being critical or annoyed, shut my mouth, and to just live out loud. Make sure the "roof is off with God, walls down with people" (Nancy DeMoss). To not fear what others think when God calls me to radical obedience and trust that those who are thirsty, will seek to purge sin and disobedience from their life.
And most importantly I feel a deep passion to pray earnestly for God's Spirit of revival to breath across His Body!
When a watch world seeing the joy that comes from a fully surrendered life to our Holy God, they will see the power of the cross and my prayer is that God will use whatever means He chooses to encourage others to seek to say, "Yes, Lord" to every area, thought, and action!
Revive our Hearts had a radio program about this issue on Oct. 6th, here's a LINK
Thanks again for your comment!
Monday, October 25, 2010
Sunday, October 24, 2010
There are times I get an idea or a thought, often noble and some sort of God honoring pursuit, and I run with it, creating dust in my path. Leaving no time for prayer and contemplation.
But the Lord is showing me to be a bit more prayerful and less impulsive. Wait and pray, seek Him before I make quick decisions, and make sure I am indeed doing what He's called me to do.
Learning self-control, learning to walk in line with the Spirit...yup, it's all apart of the process!
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Here were some of my thoughts:
- Obedience equals death to self, living for Christ and you have an absents of selfish tendencies
- Obedience is letting God's "flashlight" flash into every area of our life, our thoughts, our motives, and our actions.
- With obedience we have a purer view of God. Disobedience clouds our spiritual filter.
- Obedience shows a heart that understand it's position under God's authority.
I have a lot to chew on and process myself.
How about you? What does obedience mean to you?
Friday, October 22, 2010
The night before I left, about 6:30 pm, our door bell rang. It was a girlfriend from church, in tears over a situation that was tearing her up inside. We sat and talk for about an hour and work through some possible next steps in her situation.
As I sat in the pre-conference, I felt a little out of place. I am not a women's ministry leader or pastor's wife. I am currently leading a bible study, but it's been years since my last one. So I was feeling, "I don't belong?"
Then one of the speakers said, "Do women come to you for counseling? Then this session is for you." It was almost as if she was answering my question!
These bullets points are straight from my notes. These were some of what jumped out at me. Again this was for ministry leaders, but as we all grow towards becoming godly older women, we should desire these things in our own lives! Not only in our life, but in our relationships with other women.
- The world's message is not fuzzy, we must not be fuzzy in our message of biblical womanhood.
- The end goal of women's ministries is to: grow women like Christ and help women biblically navigate through life issues. It should be: word driven, Christ centered, Gospel drenched, spirit empowered, personally modeled, love motivated, servant hearted, prayer saturated, faith based and joy exuding.
- Whatever is contagious in our life will be caught.
- Share with other women out of your "hall of shame". Being authentic and transparency takes risks.
- Most women were not mothered themselves.
- Have prayer partners
- Keep growing in our faith
- Get relevant - never change the message, but methods
- Don't waste your time on things not Word driven.
- Do the most critical things first.
- How do I live my life as a biblical woman?
- Have a solid doctrinal foundation.
- Actively teach biblical principles of womanhood.
- Ask myself: am I being a life giver or a life taker in all situations.
Thursday, October 21, 2010
After going to True Woman 2008, I felt this passion to share this message with everyone I knew. I had a passion to host a True Woman event in my community. I wanted others to catch the vision of biblical womanhood. I wanted to share and grow this movement.
But, as I sat through the amazing sessions at True Woman 2010 in Fort Worth, I realized I had wasted much of the last two years try to do something God wasn't opening doors to do.
At every turn I ran into a brick wall. I got frustrated, annoyed with others around me, and felt a bit lonely.
I missed out on something...I missed out on spending 2 years in becoming a True Woman myself.
Oh sure I study God's word and I go to church. I honor and submit to my authority and my hearts desire is to grow into a godly old lady! But I spent way too much emotional and spiritual energy looking at people around me and not allowing God to change my heart. (It was a little humbling...which was good...just ouch, ya know!)
So, I will share the messages and my notes from TW '10, but God has given me some homework assignments. My energy is going to be in digging deeper, sharing as the doors get opened, and not expecting that I can really do anything for God!
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
"We are living in times where we can not straddle the fence of faith. We must choose our side, we must stand our ground, we must decide what we believe and live it out. We have no choice! We must live out loud and if we choose the side of faith, grace and truth, we must not fear what others think. We don't have time to play games with our Christianity!"
I was taken to the verse in Revelation 3:15-16: I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.
After a conversation with a friend I was thinking of this verse. In college I had a short time of rebellion to the Lord. Thankfully it was a short season, but it was this verse that the Lord used to pull me back to His side.
I was straddling the fence. I was in church on Sunday, with a heart that was just going through the motion. I was living for my own wants and for the approval of man.
One night the Lord promoted me with this verse. The word "spit" literaly means: vomit. How I didn't want God to vomit me out of His mouth. That night I choose, I choose to live my faith out loud and to not fear.
We are living in strange times (of course much of mankind has felt that at one point or another), but I strongly believe, with all my heart, that believers needs to show a watching world the life changing joy of knowing God. Joy in trials, joy in pain, joy in whatever comes your way.
One way of getting that joy is to immerse yourself in God's word, study it, know it, memorize it. We're in a battle and you must choose what side you're on: God's side or the worlds side. Otherwise you will be vomited out of God's mouth!
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Monday, October 18, 2010
My heart was challenged over and over to dig deeper into God's word.
As a mom I often share with single women that when I was single I had hours to feast on God's word and now I do a lot of nibbling. Yes, as a mom I am busy, but that's not an excuse to not grow in my knowledge and study of the bible. I just have to have right priorities!
So word and priorities were two themes for the weekend.
I have time to study God's word, however my priorities are not always in line with God's priorities, so I make excuses! (I love God's gentle hand of correction!)
Holly Elliff, mother of 8 and a pastor's wife said, "Often women do what we're not called to do, so we're too tired to what we are called to do."
I am called to know God's word, to actively grown in knowing God's word more, to let His word change my mindset and life. I am also called to pass this on to my sons. It's a high calling and this weekend was yet another amazing reminder of what God has for me in this season of my life!
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Two of my sons complained of either a tummy ache or a sore throat. So I stayed home from church and just cuddled my boys.
I'm thinking of a few new things for the blog and would love to get some feed back.
Mary Kassian has written a new book: Girls Gone Wise There's 20 points of a "girl gone wise" to the "girl gone wild."
Also True Woman will be posting videos of all their main sessions.
So I am thinking...out loud here...of using "Girls Gone Wise" as a bible study for us to go through. Each week, I'll post my thoughts, Mary's video from her blog, and other insights about that week's chapter. I would hope that you'd buy a copy of Mary's book to read along and share what God is teaching you. What do you think?
I am also planning on sharing each of the session I attended. There was some great info and in 2008 I shared my notes. I think I'll wait till all the videos are up on the True Woman website.
What do you think?
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
True Woman is an amazing conference and if the staff at True Woman blogs, tweets, and posts on their Facebook wall, as much as the did at TW Indy, you can follow my journey this weekend!
Here's all the links:
True Woman Facebook Movement
True Woman Blog
True Woman Twitter
I may also be twittering, just depending. I don't want my updates to get in the way of what God has for me!
Please be in prayer for this conference! Thanks!
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
But as the days turned into weeks and the weeks turned into months of being up this early, I've discovered that, although two of them are up, my house is quiet, my heart is quiet, and starting my day with two boys running around, the bible in my lap, and a cup of coffee is my hand...is a great way to start my day!
Friday, October 1, 2010
Maybe you think your secret sin isn't really causing anyone else problems, so you'll just keep it there, locked away?
How can the body of Christ not be effected by personal hidden sin? We're all the body of Christ and this is why humility, grace, revival, and honesty must be apart of our walk with fellow believers.
You know when you have a small hangnail on your toe and it effects how you walk because of the small pain. Well a day or two of walking "funny" your legs hurt, your back aches, and you feel out of sorts.
Yes, your little sin may be "small", but it does effect the entire Body! May we be open, honest, and transparent so our hidden sins don't effect the Church!
Thursday, September 30, 2010
On her youtube channel she has about 19 book blog spots!
Here's the link to the first one!
We all have a bit of wildness in our hearts and Mary has a way of shining the light to that wildness! May we become women of wisdom!
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Friday, September 24, 2010
This week I've highlighted some of the unique aspects of the True Woman conference. And there's so much more I could have shared. Currently True Woman Indy is taking place and last night I keep glued to my computer for updates and photos of the night on True Woman Movement Facebook page. I also was getting twitter updates on my cell phone.
Just watching from cyber space my heart was overjoyed at what the Lord was doing. I prayed for those there and for the speakers. Much fruit will come from these conferences.
So join me...that's right, I'll be there, in Fort Worth Oct. 14th to 16th. Add a comment and you'll be entered to win two entrance tickets to the convention (this doesn't include lodging and transportation) and also you'll win an autographed copy of my book and it will be delivered in person.
Enjoy this video of True Woman Chattanooga
Thursday, September 23, 2010
But, one of my favorite talks (and one I've listened to a handful of times since then) was by Mary Kassian "We've Come a Long Way Baby".
It was through this talk that I realized how much feminism has torn at the fabric of our culture and how, like the air I breath, it has filtered it's way into my life. It's powerful to break down the heart of feminism and to see the core of what it really is.
Mary Kassian (YIPPEE) will be at Fort Worth True Woman and if you want to win two tickets to the entrance of the conference (doesn't include transportation and lodging) then leave a comment.
Also, I will be at the Fort Worth True Woman conference and you'll also win an autographed copy of my book, delivered in person!
The drawing will be tomorrow (Friday) at 9 pm central time!
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Here's a video to give you a bit of Dannah!
Again if you want to win two tickets to True Woman in Fort Worth Oct. 14th to 16th leave a comment!!
(Guess what...I'll be there!!! So not only will you win two tickets, but you will win an autographed copy of my book that will be hand delivered!)
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
She gives you information on some of the aspects of this conference!
Again, to enter to win 2 tickets for Ft. Worth True Woman, please leave a comment and I'll draw a name on Friday!
Monday, September 20, 2010
In 2008 I went to a conference called: True Woman, which is a ministry of Revive our Hearts. This conference was top of the line, with speakers such as John Piper, Mary Kassian and Nancy Leigh DeMoss. This is one of those "must go to" conferences!
True Woman is hosting a conference in Ft. Worth, Texas October 14th to the 16th and have asked me to give away two tickets (a value of $129 a piece) to one winner!
Here's how you enter to win:
This week, each day, I'll blog about this conference. I'll share some of the speakers and some videos.
All you have to do is post a comment! I will write every name down and at the end of the week, Friday night, I will draw a name for two tickets.
These tickets are for entrance into the conference, not transportation or lodging.
Have fun and I know that the person God wants to go, will be picked! Can't wait to see who it is!!
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
"Honesty is liberating" pg 52
"We don't have to be trained how to hide or pretend - it comes naturally." pg 45
"God cannot bless or revive a heart that refuses to acknowledge the truth." pg 45
"The devil has successfully taught us that lying will produce some benefit...We will be more respected, more appreciated, live more comfortably if we just cover the truth. At all costs, we must never admit who we really are ('Think of how it would ruin our reputation')" pg 54
"Honesty about our sin opens the door for us to experience God's amazing grace" pg 53
"The longer we live a lie, the harder it is to come clean." pg 54
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
* If you speak the truth, in love, you'll either be loved or hated.
* We can become so blinded by our own lies that it's near impossible to see the truth.
* We need to look at our sin through the back drop of who God is and His word.
Friday, August 27, 2010
Monday, August 23, 2010
The first week's memory verse is: Break up your fallow ground, for it is time to seek the Lord, that he may come and rain righteousness upon you. Hosea 10:12
Fallow ground is ground that has once been plowed, but not laying waste. The idea that our hearts were once passionate for God, but have since become a waste land.
If you read the next verse: "You have plowed iniquity, you have reaped injustice; you have eaten the fruit of lies. Because you have trusted in your own way and in the multitude of your warriors." Hosea 10:13
The section that jumped out at me was: you have eaten the fruit of lies.
Eaten...we've taken it in, digested lies, and they sustain us. How often do we believe a lie without really seeking the truth? How often do we even have a hard time telling the difference between the truth and a lie. Is it because we've "eaten" the lies?
May we be people who earnestly seek truth!
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Life is full of "doing hard things" (love that book by the Harris twins). Life is not easy. We're called to take the high ride, walk in integrity, and not cut corners.
The earlier we learn this lesson, the better off we'll be!
Monday, August 16, 2010
Saturday, July 24, 2010
If you walk in truth: God will defend you.
If you walk in uprightness: God will defend you.
If you walk in righteousness: God will defend you.
I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that God defends.
People may slander your name, they may gossip about you, they may try to hurt you, they may ignore you, they may believe a lie about you, they may not try to get all the facts, they may hate you...but it doesn't matter because God WILL defend you.
It may not happen on your time table. It may takes years, but trust me God will defend you.
If you're a professing believer and others around you know your take your faith in God seriously, then they are watching how you respond. They are looking for you to be cutting and cold, cruel and mean. But don't! Let God defend you.
Be a person who gets the facts. Be a person who knows there's 2 sides to a story. Don't believe what you've heard. Do your own homework. Don't be bullied. Don't live in fear of a bully.
There's people who live with pain so deep they act out, they lash out, build walls, give you the cold sholder and are down right rude!
Don't respond, don't react...rest in God. In His hands.
God will defend you!
My mom always used to say, "Truth crushed to earth will rise again."
If you know you're on the side of truth, trust that, with time it will rise again and God will fight for you!
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Miles, age 5 eating cupcakes at Grandpa's birthday party
Clark, 11 months, eating pizza at a family party.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Do you take pains to have a clear conscience?
For me, this verse means that I am to live my life above the board. To not be shady. Never look to cut a corner, in anything! To refuse to tell "little white lies". To live in honor before my Lord. To be humble with others. To confess sins and ask for forgiveness when needed. To not take advantage of others. To never fear "getting caught" in doing anything.
I will strive to teach my sons this...of course right not they're having a silly conversation about flying above poop...yes they are little boys ;-)
But in all seriousness, I want my sons to walk in integrity in all they do, in their relationships, in their work, with their friends, at their church, and in all other areas of life.
Thursday, July 8, 2010
" So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone, just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity" Colossians 3:12-14
This clearly paints a mature Christian's attitude during conflicts with others. How I fall short!
Monday, July 5, 2010
Sono Harris, mother of Josh Harris (I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Stop Dating the Church and other books) and twins Alex and Brett Harris (Founders of "The Rebelution" and authors of Do Hard Things) has left a legacy I can only dream to leave behind.
She served her husband and children faithfully and because of her service millions of lives have been impacted by her.
Gregg Harris was the first homeschool speaker my parents ever heard. He was at a Texas homeschool convention in 1985, when our family's homeschool journey began. Since then Greg, Sono and their children have been a force in the homeschool community showing God's truth and grace in a beautiful balance!
I am praying for the family as they walk through this valley, but stand in awe of the example she's left behind.
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
This young son and his dad were driving. The dad asked the son where they were. The son didn't know. The dad asked the son where they were going. The son didn't know. The dad then said, "Well, I guess your lost then." The son replied, "I'm not lost I'm with you."
Isn't that how it is with God? We're not lost, we just don't always know where we are going and we are to trust that He knows.
Child like faith is a precious thing!
Monday, June 28, 2010
My suggestion: read the Proverbs of the day.
So today is the 28th, read Proverbs 28.
This is something I've done for many years and this is what I read my boys at the breakfast table (not every morning, don't think I am that super of an amazing mom). Of course they are 4 and 5, so we read 5 verses on those mornings we read.
Find a topic that jumps out at you: your mouth, pride, marriage, money, friendships....and mark it as you read. You'll be so surprised at the themes and wisdom packed in those 31 chapters! I always read something that applies to my life that day!
Sunday, June 27, 2010
I've warned Christian teens dating non-Christians: if this relationship doesn't point you closer to Christ, it will only point you farther away.
Do I believe you can't be friends with people who don't have the same faith as you? Of course not! I believe in those friendship we can be challenged to grow in our walk by being an example of Christ's love, grace, and truth to them.
I say again, "be alert!"
Saturday, June 26, 2010
Has remaining "emotional pure" become an idol in your life? Are you more concerned with saving your heart than you are with becoming sold out for Christ?
It's easy to take a good concept, like saving your heart, and turn it into some way more than God intended it to become.
It's easy to look down on others who don't hold to your standard. But what's the difference, pride is still sin.
When people read my book I know it can open their eyes and help them see a new way of relating to people. But my book is not the "main thing". A single Christian's main goal should not be to remain pure emotionally.
The Main Thing is a pure, passionate, loving, all encompassing relationship with our Lord, Creator, and Savior! Make that your main goal. Putting anything above that is idolatry!
Friday, June 25, 2010
The older I get, the more excited I get about growing up in my faith. I see God refining and working on very specific issues in my life!
I see God prodding me along and although it's not always fun, it is worth it!
Friday, June 11, 2010
Not just knowing God, but knowing and understanding what you need and what He did for you. We can know God, know of God, but remain totally unaffected in certain areas of our life. Maybe we put God over in this area of our life, our Sunday life, and other parts of our life we live as we please.
I am not exempt! I have areas that I struggle to surrender fully to God, areas I cling to. I am working towards making sure that not one area remains untouched by His love, grace and truth.
Sometimes I look at the church world around me and my heart is saddened. We have no shame in sin, we look just like the world, we have nothing better to offer. We have conflicts just like non-believers, we have unsatisfying marriages like unbelievers, we are joyless, and worry like the best of them.
Christ didn't come for this! He came to give us a new life! He came so that His light would penetrate every area of our life and be radically changed! He wants us believers to look, act, think so DIFFERENT that we're aliens and strangers in this world.
How I long for this in my own life!!
Friday, June 4, 2010
As summer approaches and as Clark is fully mobile I find I have less and less time at the computer.
In my free time lately I've been reading "Instructing a Child's Heart" by Tedd and Margy Tripp. This book has been a great parenting resource and came at the right time. I just want to share this quote, "The home is a place where we present a culture that is distinctly Christian."
As my husband and I enter a new phase of parenting with our older boys, we're more awear of this fact and need that this home is a place where a biblical worldview is taught, where Christ is seen through every action, and where they can learn to clearly see the difference between Christian culture and world culture.
This, my friend, takes a lot of time and energy! Thanks for walking along life's path with me!
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Thursday, May 6, 2010
1) To be hardworking
2) To always be teachable
3) To be kind to the women in their life
These three things will help them be the types of husbands I pray they become.
Monday, May 3, 2010
Clark is almost 9 months old and of course crawling like crazy! He also puts everything and anything in his mouth. Which is a challange with two boys who love legos!
Luke is my spunky nearly 4 year old who loves bugs, outdoors, fish, whales, and sharks. He's best friends with Miles, who turned 5 last month.
Miles and Luke, although best buds, sure are different. Miles loves people and music. He's got a wonderful imagination and comes up with the best stories.
Being a mom to these three guys is such a blessing! I am amazed at my life.
But I'm busy. I'm not in God's word as much as I'd like to be. I'm not blogging as much as I'd like to be. But, I am having fun teaching my boys, watching them learn, being hands on, and being silly.
God is teaching me patience. He is teaching me to let go of expectations. He is teaching me to not be prideful in anything I do or anything my kids do.
Life...it's a wonderful journey!
Thanks to taking it with me!
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Ah, Facebook! I really do enjoy Facebook, I love connecting with friends and making new friends.
But Facebook can be hurtful, harmful, and destroy friendships and relationships.
Like anything in life we must be balanced in our approach to Facebook. It shouldn't replace real life conversations with friends. It shouldn't replace reaching out to new friends at school, work, or church. It shouldn't replace face to face interaction with those we live with.
Facebook should be look at as a tool of communication. Not the only tool in our "relationship tool box", but A tool. If there's been miscommunication in real life, we should seek to correct it and the same goes for Facebook.
So for all the positives of Facebook we must seek to avoid the negative effect it can have on relationships.
Monday, April 26, 2010
As I've thought about her question these phrases and ideas came into my head:
An emotionally modest person:
- understands what boundaries are
- knows what's appropriate to share and what's sharing too much
- understands that that circle of intimate friends is small
- can control their emotions when necessary
- knows what a "safe" friend is and can share honestly and openly with that person
In our culture of Facebook, Twitter, texting, blogs...etc...people have become desensitized to boundaries. We've become a culture of "over sharing". So when I think of someone who is emotionally modest, they understand that the "hidden person of the heart" is not for the world to see, but a select group of safe, close confidants.
Hope this helps! And remember, these are just my thoughts on the matter! I am far from perfect and not the final authority on this issue! ;-)
Monday, April 19, 2010
In our culture women's tender emotions have been trampled upon by the feminist movement. We've been told to be strong, fearless, and bold. I have seen first hand how that attitudes removes this tenderness and compassion.
We get so wrapped up in protecting ourselves, our rights, our attitudes, we forget we are to be the tender women God created us to be.
I believe in allowing God's grace to flow through me in the tender, compassion manner I am strong, I am protected, I am free.
Why must be do things so opposite of God's ways! His ways are set up to protect us, not to harm us!
(Mary Kassian gave a talk on True Woman '08 about how the feminist movement grew, I belive it's helpful in understand why women do what we do. Hope you enjoy watching the video HERE)
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Does it mean you never speak to anyone of the opposite sex? Does it mean you avoid all contact with guys? Does it mean you're scared to death of even opening up any emotions to young men (or young women if you're a guy)?
I don't think so!
Being emotionally modest mean you understand your own boundaries. You understand what's appropriate to share and what is inappropriate to share. You know your own heart and motives behind being emotionally connected with someone.
It takes work to be emotionally modest. It's not easy. It's totally counter-cultural! But oh so worth it!
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit,
but with humility of mind regard one
another as more important than yourselves
Life on Planet Mom can be the greatest joy and the biggest challenge any of us will face. Motherhood is not for the faint of heart and most of us really don’t know all mothering entails the first time we hold our newborn. Yet, we’re surviving, breathing, thriving, and enjoying Planet Mom!
As a mom, when I find myself the most annoyed, frustrated, irritated, or stressed out with my kids, I can normally point that attitude back to myself. Not just who I am, but my selfishness that comes from being human. In a nutshell, when I am not getting my way, I am not fun to be around!
Being a mom and being selfish don’t go hand in hand, if they do you will find yourself being very discontent on Planet Mom. Self can get in the way of really thriving on Planet Mom.
We live in a society that saturated with self. Everyone is looking out for number one. When you put yourself above your relationship with God, your husband, or your kids you will be frustrated. We told in the bible to “do nothing from selfishness”. (Phil 2:3 NSB) Do nothing! That’s a tough pill to swallow when we’re feeling overwhelmed with the demands that motherhood brings.
In saying we must put others first I know your thoughts are, “Well, if no one is taking care of me, I’ll get lost in being a wife or a mom.” We’re not to get lost in anything we do, but who we are in Christ. When we look at mothering or being a wife through the lens of Christ and through His example of service to others, we see the balance.
Christ often took time to be with His Father, to renew Himself spiritually with God. But Christ poured out His life for people over and over and over. When He was tired He still gave. When He wanted a break and someone needed Him, He gave. But again, He knew time with His Father was the key to renewal.
As moms we must follow His example. In order to feel renewed and refreshed, it’s important that we take care of our spiritual needs. Taking care of our spiritual needs will rejuvenate our batteries for our husbands and our children.
If you’re feeling drained spiritually and you’re barely surviving on Planet Mom, then I’d suggest you take time and "get away" with God. If you have the time and resources, I'd recommend a retreat. But if that's not possible, get a few hours away and alone with you and the Lord. If even a few hours isn't possible, take 30 minutes to have some quiet time with God. We all have 30 minutes, we just have to prioritize.
Getting away and taking care of that spiritual need will help you be a better wife and mom!