When I first wrote (back in 1999) Emotional Purity I remember my dad asking me, "What is your purpose in writing this book? What do you hope people gain from reading it?"
I didn't take me too long to answer.
My goal wasn't to change the world or make everyone believe I thought that I had all the dating answers. My goal was simple: I wanted to make people pause and examine how they treat the opposite sex.
We live in a culture that we can't escape. It's like the air we breath, we can't help but be effected by it. As Christians we are foolish to the world, we make no sense...and that's okay! But often we are so effected by the culture that we start sifting our actions through the world standard and not God's.
As God convicted me of emotional purity in my own life, I saw how easy it was to choose the world way of doing "dating". I saw how self satisfying it was to have your ego stroked in casual friendship relationships. It became evident to me how easily I could use a guy to try (without success) to satisfy what only a deep, meaningful relationship with God could do.
I didn't set out to change the world, but to hope and pray people would pause and made sure their filter was lined up with God's filter.