My husband heard a great quote this weekend at his men's retreat:
"Hatred hurts the person hurting. It's like drinking poison and expecting that person (the person you are hating) to die."
Maybe your hurting over a courtship gone bad.
Maybe your hurting over a broken engagement.
Maybe your hurting over a loss of a close friend.
Hating that person will only cause you more pain. Hating the situation or experience will not hurt anyone but you.
Learning to release and let go is an on going process, but one that will be vital to the health of your walk with the Lord.