Wednesday, July 23, 2008

07/23/08 - Hurting People

I heard the phrase: hurting people hurt people.

What does this mean to you? What do you think of when you hear this phrase?

5 comments:

Julie said...

Hurting people are often like wounded animals, in that they lash out at anyone who tries to help them. More sinister are the ones who, by way of satisfaction, inflict on others the same pain they have suffered in the past.

arcee said...

Hurting people tend to react with an assumption that they need to protect themselves and live defensively. This inevitably hurts people who try to get close to them.

Thank the good Lord that Christ came to heal these kinds of hurts and he equips Christians to reach out to hurting people and not to give up on them, whether they are spouses, children, co-workers, neighbors, friends, or someone from the community.

Anonymous said...

The first thing I think of is that when we hurt, our patience/forbearance level is very low. Often we are focusing too much on our hurts instead of on Christ. Since we are living in the flesh more than in the Spirit, we'll have the fruits of the flesh: anger, etc., which of course hurts those around us.
Thanks for posting such a thought-provoking, short question!
I've been reading your blog faithfully over the last week or two, and have found so much encouragement to press on. (I'm a 24 yr. old "single" living at home, who struggles on and off with the ups and downs of singelness.) Thank you so much for your ministry, Heather!! God is teaching me much, and He IS using me mightily in my single years. Praises be to Him! God bless you!
In Christ,
Jessica Bernhardt
Harvard, IL

Anonymous said...

When we have unresolved hurt in our lives, the tendency is focus on our hurt or the source of in. In that case, we often overlook the needs of others around us and in the process add hurt to their own life to some degree or another.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes, when people get hurt deeply by someome they care about/or are close to, they can chose to carry that hurt for the rest of their lives, and seemingly "punish" others for what has been done to them. They go on, hurting/shutting out/cutting people out of their lives, and wound so many in their wake. Wrong as it is fot them to do that, is it even worse for us to return their "curses" and harbor unforgiveness. We have to love through the pain even when the pain inflicted on us cuts to the core of our being.

People like that need love--LOTS of it, and they need us to keep on showing them the hope of Christ and His unconditional love for them.

But--that brings to mind a question: What do we do when it's CHRISTIANS who have been hurt, and in turn hurt others? We have to realize that EVEN Christians hurt. and pray and seek God's healing for them and their lives. In some cases, it can come to the place where we are COMPLETELY cut off for just showing them love. But, we can't let our own hurt drive us--we have to LOVE, LOVE, and LOVE when curses are heaped on our head like burning coals. Only when someone has been wounded deeply will they lash out like that at fellow believers.

These are hard lessons to learn,and VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY painful ones to learn/experience--but I have/am learning that...

It's love. Only real, lasting love in the form of Jesus Christ that will set us free.