Yesterday I posted about Authentic Communication and I received this comment:
"I really appreciate this post. It makes sense and sounds really practical. Even though I know your point is to stress communication, I'm wondering if you could go deeper and give examples of everything you and John talked about. It actually surprised me that you said that. I guess I'm trying to sort out this whole emotional intimacy thing and what it means practically. Like of course if you're going to marry someone you want to know where they stand on things so that it's clear beforehand, but then again, I think that'd create a lot of emotional intimacy? It's just kind of all confusing. How do you know how much to open up as your relationship is unfolding and growing? You said you walk away from him....do you just take it as it comes?"
When John and I began to date, our goal and intention was extremely clear from the first night. We knew we were in this with marriage in mind. We knew we were committed to seek God for marriage in our life!
Five days later we started planning our wedding, so we were committed to marriage, thus we felt the need to communicate about everything that was appropriate.
I do know that our situation is not the norm! But once we come to the place where you are in a relationship with a commitment, I believe you are free to become (this of course is a process) emotional intimate. Those times I'd walk away from John was when we had no commitment.
Does this help?