How well do you communicate? I mean really communicate?
Many of you are single who read this blog and I believe a great tool you can sharpen as you wait on God's timing for marriage, is the ability to communicate.
The day my husband and I began to date (which was five years on Tuesday!) we said that we would be as honest as possible. We never held back our thoughts or feelings in fear that we'd ruin this relationship. We never feared the outcome of talking as freely and openly as we could.
We covered all issues in those first few weeks of dating. No topic (beside anything that was not appropriate) was off limit. We talk and shared about everything.
Learning authentic communication in my single years helped me know what type of communication I wanted in my marriage. I knew I wanted to feel like I could share anything with my mate.
One may think that all couples communicate this freely, but surprisingly they don't. One married friend told me I "trained" John to talk so freely and there are just topics she and her husband do not talk about.
Another woman shared with me that it took her two years to bring up a topic in her marriage that was "difficult" to address.
I received another e-mail from a young guy who was sharing how he recently broke up with his girlfriend and although they started with very clear intention (dating with marriage in mind) he felt like there were issues (things that would be appropriate to share) he could not talk to her about. He felt like these issues would just "go away" over time.
Practice authentic communication in your same sex friendships, it will greatly aid you as you move towards marriage with the mate God has for you!