Friday, February 29, 2008

02/29/08 - Friday

Did you all notice the new link bar on my blog? I am making some slight changes to my blog (Thanks to my friend Anne). Hope you enjoy the easier layout!

I received a question in my Motives post. Alex asked: "What if God has placed the desire to marry in your heart, but you aren't "old enough" according to society? — i.e. can't support a family yet, still in school, not "independent. As a tangent to that question, what if, just suppose, God shows you who your wife will be during that time? What then??"

A lot of young people feel the desire to get married and they feel that God has placed this desire on their heart. Yet, have to wait a few years before they awaken this love or desire.

Song of Songs (2:7, 3:5, 8:4) says, "Do not awaken love until it so desires."

If God clearly shows you your wife, then my advice would be to seek out counseling/mentoring from a parent, elder, pastor, older married couple and seek for them to help you remain patient as you wait for you to get your life in order so that you can support a wife.

If you begin to "date with the purpose of marriage" even at a young age, you are putting yourself in years of waiting, which bring a host of temptations.

Now in saying that, I have a young friend who met his wife very young, they were married this past December and they both are 20. One smart thing they did was save their first kiss for their engagement. The long you date and are physical, the longer you put your place in temptations path.

Just because God shows you who your wife is, doesn't mean you have to tell her, start dating, or become emotional. If she is your wife, God will keep her for you!


Joseph said...

Do you think teaching the youth to look for that "special someone" instills an improper attitude in them? Do you think that there is a downside to acting on a belief that there is just one person out there for you? I'm curious.

julie said...

Guarding one's heart and treating those of others with honour while purposefully waiting for one's marriage partner has to be better than bumbling aimlessly through a series of failed relationships and still ending up single. Better for a young person to be taught that God has someone in mind for them to marry, rather than receive little or no guidance on this matter, as happens so often.