Friday, February 15, 2008

02/15/08 - Questions & Book Give Away

First of all, thank you to all of you who read my story and left comments! I am so thankful that you were encouraged on your walk in the Lord. I received lots of comments and questions so I will try to answer them.

Also, I was always so excited to see how many hits my blog received. This week, I've received more hits than ever you all were enjoying Our Story!


The questions started in my Dating (Part 2) post:

"How do you know when you are "ready to get married"? Is is just the legal age, and then you can start thinking about who?" "Is that different for a guy than for a girl?"

I don't think that being ready for marriage is a legal age or a date on the calendar. I guess I would say a person is ready to be married when they can take a wife, provide for her, and sustain a household.

Now this is from a guy's perspective. Could the age be different for a girl? Sure, she's not biblically responsible for providing for her family.

I do however believe that one should seek guidance to see if they are mentally and emotionally ready for marriage.

The next question came in: Our Story (Part 1): "You said'When I began to write God put His hand on me and made me invisable to all guys!' Did that hurt? Or did you feel a shield of protection from God in that?"

I think it was a mixture of both. Somedays I'd praise God for allowing me to be so distraction-free! Other days I'd cry out to God to help me make sense of all of it.

As I look back I completly see this as God's protection of my marriage and I am so thankful for that!


I'll get to more questions I received in e-mails and comments in future blogs! But I want to announce my first book give away!

Leave a comment on this post and your name will be entered to win one of three autographed books: Emotional Purity: An Affair of the Heart. The drawing will be on Wednesday, so get your name entered!

Tell your friends and pass along this contest!


Caitlin said...

Hi Heather! I didn't ever get to comment on your Getting to Know You post, so now I suppose I will get two things done at once :)
I am another girl striving to walk the path of true purity along with my sisters and several of my close friends. I have been so blessed by your book and your blog, and read it all regularly. Emotional Purity is one of my top recommendations to anyone who asks me about dating or purity. Thank you so much for all that you have done!

Caitlin ;)

allison said...

I'd like to enter for the drawing. I'm Allison. Do you need more than a first name?

RMS said...

Hi Heather,
I'd also like to enter for the book drawing. Thank you for all your insights.

Alyshia said...

Hi Heather!
I like Cairlin never posted on you getting to know post. So, Im doing that now too. My name is Alyshia and I love your book and blog. They are such an encouragement. I have only been reading your blog for about a month and it has been such a blessing. I also loved reading your’s and John’s story…… God is so amazing!

A sister in Christ,
Alyshia :-D

Abby Joy said...

I've been enjoying your story...and hoping to win a copy of your book. :D

--Abigail Joy

Anonymous said...

I really enjoyed the book. I am at a Christian college and lots of cute Godly men are here, and I feel that God gave me the book to read (through a friend) at the perfect time. So thank-you! I would love to enter the drawing.
Kristine Heppner

Joanna said...

I appreciated the book tons, and would love to enter the drawing as I have a lot of friends who would also benefit from it. :D Thanks for letting God speak through you to our lives and relationships!

Elizabeth Aprile said...

Dear Mrs. Patenaude,

I had known about your book for about five years before I received it as a gift last month. I have been struggling with a "one-sided" (me) undefined emotional relationship (fantasy), and a good friend decided to send it to me. Needless to say, I gobbled it up right away. I had thought about the title many times, wondering if I would like the book, but there was not a more perfect time in my life when I could have used the sound wisdom and affirmation of what I already knew to be right.
Much of your advice confirms what I have heard, and rang true in my mind as to what I should or shouldn't have done in the relationship I began and then terminated both out of obedience and for my own sake!

I can testify to the fact that time heals all wounds. Praise the Lord for His mercy in designing life that way! (But that should never be used as an excuse to take liberties, because even after nine months I am still suffering repercussions and temptations to begin the relationship again, which would be worse than the first sin!).

Also I can say that the greatest motivating factor for protecting your heart is the overwhelming emotional pain that follows failing to protect it and pretending that it is not as vulnerable as it truly is. Having said this, I pray that God will use me and continue to use you to motivate young women to protect their emotions before marriage.

All this is true...but yes, I am also replying to this post because I want one of those books. =)

Love in Christ,
Elizabeth Aprile

SK: ) said...

My grandfather (a traveling evangelist) spent some time in Zion in the 1930s. A few years ago my mom and I visited the place where he stayed.

Wish I had known about you then--I would have looked you up!

- Sarah K.

Anonymous said...


My name is Mariah. I've been enjoying your blog for a while, and I'd love to read your book.

I can identify with God making you "invisible" to guys. Years ago, I asked God to let the first one who asks me out or "expresses interest" be the man I marry. I'm in my early twenties and so far, haven't been asked out, nor has anyone "expressed interest."

I've felt pretty invisible, and at times, wondered what was going on (especially since God didn't make men invisible to me!). Your story has been a great encouragement and reminder of God's faithfulness in every aspect of life. Thank you for sharing!

The Hargett Family said...

Heather - It's been fun to visit your blog a few times this week and read your "love story" ;0 How precious. There's so few things in life that take your breath away - so how neat that God orchestrated your life together so perfectly (although I'm sure at the time it seem so painstakingly slow!!!!)

One of the things that you wrote about what John said in reference to getting married is how I knew that I was going to marry Tom. It's easy to imagine life with someone (especially when you are starry-eyed!) but it's trying to imagine life without them that you know... Tom and I will celebrate 8 years this summer! (6/16)!

Alysa said...


Thank you so much for your answer to "What should the single Christian's motive be for getting married?" It helped so much!

I was talking to a friend about it this morning, and both of us feel that God is putting that desire in my heart because it is His time, yet it's so easy to question, "Is it just me, plagued by human emotions?"

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I don't get on the internet often, so only just saw it all today, and it was just what I needed to read now! It greatly encouraged me, as I could really relate to parts of it, especially feeling akward about meeting someone because of the pressure to do so!

One thing you didn't clarify (or I missed it!) how did you find out John was a chiropractor?

I guess typing here enters me into the compitition, but that wasn't really my motive, b/c I was planning on thanking you anyway! And, I don't expect to win, b/c I have never won anything in my life.

I just want to say thanks for the encouragement, and God bless you!

Anonymous said...

Hi Heather!
You are such a blessing. I really enjoyed reading your story these last couple of days. It's amazing how God can write such beautiful love stories when we surrender and trust in Him. I'm a 17 year old girl (18 next week!) striving to live my life for Christ each and every day. My desire is to set my boudaries and standards before I start dating in the future. It would be great if I won your book :)
In His Timing,
Endya Joy

Anonymous said...

One more question; For a guy, would being able to provide for a wife also mean that he should be done with his college education, or would plans for her to work while he's in college full time be ok?

hollymark said...

Thanks for your ministry! I'd love to be in on the book drawing. There are so many girls (and even guys for that matter) who I think could benefit from these principles and I'd love to have a copy to give out to someone who needs it.
-Holly Southerland

Spuckupine said...

sweetness. i'd like to take part in this =] just use my gmail account to contact me

Olivia said...

I love reading your blog so I too would probably love to read your book. Please enter me, Olivia Coy, to win your book.

Eva's Inspired Photography said...

Hi Heather~!

What an opportunity for your readers. I would definately like to be a part of your book give away. I love reading your daily posts, plus im encouraged every day as I have 4 children of my own and raising them will take all the Help I can get. Keep up the blessings of great writting skills and raising your children for His Glory.

Kingdom Builder Keepers,
Eva Shaughnessy

Anonymous said...

Hi Heather,

When I read the back of your book I knew I really need to read it.

God, through your book has helped me to relise how to be emotionally pure.

I would like to share your book with all my friends.


grow up girl said...

Hello! I'd like to enter for your drawing as well.

Although I'm a married woman, I find that your blog is very benefical even for me to read. Especially from the standpoint of showing your kids how to be emotionally pure. That is a message I'd also like to pass on to my kids.

Keep up the good work...If only I had a resource like this when I was single and being impatient about dating matters! I have a little sister though, age 14, and I think I will be introducing your blog to her very soon.


Micaela said...

hi--I really appreciate some of these answers! I'm glad someone has been asking questions--it helps get ideas and wanderings straightened out. It's awesome to hear things from someone who has done it! As a 26 year old, it's easy to think--will this ever work? Is it worth doing the "whole emotional purity thing?" Fro what I read from your posts--it's worth it...thanks for the encouragement!

Enter me in the drawing please!

Micaela Vinson