Friday, January 11, 2008

01/11/08 - Emotional Faithfulness

Yes, two blogs in one day!

I receive a lot of hits on my blog from people who are searching: emotional affairs, emotional affairs and the church, Christian emotional affair, woman in emotional affairs.

The more I think about this issue and talk to others about this issue, the more I see the importance of talking about emotional faithfulness.

What does it mean to be emotional faithful? My definition would be that a husband and wife see and value the importance of being each others emotional outlet. They'd see that those emotional needs that they have, should only be satisfied by their mate and no one else.

Remaining emotionally faithful is putting your mates emotional needs first and not looking outside of marriage to find emotional satisfaction.

If you are trying to hide a "friendship" from your mate, chances are you are crossing over into the emotional affairs ground. If you find yourself looking for emotional satisfaction outside of marriage, then again you are treading on the grounds of emotional affairs.

If you are single, remaining emotionally faithful, means you are waiting on God to provide the mate. You are keeping your heart free of entanglements, keeping emotions pure, and trusting God. It's remaining emotionally faithful before you even meet your spouse!


Morgan Coy said...

I just wanted to say 'thank you' for allowing me to use your "Agressive Girls" post on my blog! I found your blog from Megan Goff's blog (aren't her boys the cutest?!) and have been checking back ever since. Thanks again! ~Morgan <><

Anonymous said...

What about while you're in a dating/courting relationship, but not married? It seems that it is easier to define behavior within marriage and being single, but what about that middle area? help!

Anonymous said...

P.S. Thank you for all of this!

Emily Faggion said...

I'm reading your book and I really like it! But I was wondering...what are your thoughts about emailing casually with a guy? Talking about, say, a school project, sports, movies or random, insignificant stuff? Perhaps you could comment me back at my blog

I really love what you're doing and your book is so refreshing! I've been wanting to read it for a long time and finally got it this Christmas!

God Bless,

Anonymous said...

Can you please define "emotional affair" from a Scriptural pov?

It seems as if you are saying that married people are not allowed to have relationships with people of the opposite sex that are emotionally deeper than their marriage. While I appreciate the sentiment, I don't see this as being realistic or Scripturally supported. Except maybe in the case of an elder.