Yesterday I got this question:
"Did you wait until you were engaged to have an emotional relationship?"
John and I were friends for six months before we started to date. During that time we did not have an emotional relationship. We were friends, but conversations never went past joking around, small talk, and general conversation.
The night we started to date with the intention of seeing if God would have us get married, we began to become emotional with each other; sharing our hearts, thoughts, dreams, expectations, and feelings.
Of course, just as any relationship, you become more emotionally involved and attach as time goes on.
I would like to say, that my relationship with John is not the role model of emotional purity. Not to say that John and I did not remain emotional pure, but it was God's Spirit at work.
Try to not look at the form of what we did, but see the heart we had for remaining pure for God and each other. It may look different for someone, but the heart of purity is the same.
At times I feel like people want a three point layout of how this works and I don't think it is possible, because God doesn't work the same for each of us! That's what makes God ~ God! He can do whatever He pleases, we just have to listen and obey!