Thursday, November 1, 2007

11/01/07 - Emotional Affairs

There is this issues of emotional affairs that I just can't stop blogging about! Why? Because there are many people being effected by this type of an affair. People are deeply effected by this issue!

I have stories upon stories that affirm this statement!

Women whose husbands are receiving a little too much attention from another women they are in ministry with.

Women who find themselves attracted to a guy at church. Enough to where, they will go when he'll be there and they're not interested in time with their husband, but time with this other man.

Women who are attracted to a guy they are in ministry with (praise band, drama, prayer team, committees). Enough that they call him to talk about ministry, but end up talking about personal issues. They find themselves being secretive about this friendship to their husbands.

Women who work with a guy who pays more attention to them than their husbands. They seek time with these guys, so they can have an emotional connection/high.

Women who are wondering how to break free from an emotional affair? Wondering, how they get their heart back for their husbands.

At the core of an emotional affair (in my opinion) is this need, we women have, to feel validated. We want to feel emotionally love and have someone interested in us emotionally. We desire to have a man validate us and when our husbands aren't doing it, we think we have the right to look outside of the marriage relationship.

God is our only source of emotional satisfaction, whether you're married or single. We allow these emotional relationships or entanglements, get in our way of true satisfaction: intimate fellowship with God!

Hebrews 12: 1-2
1 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. 2 Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Tomorrow we will look at ways to break free from these emotional entanglements!

3 comments:

Momma Amy said...

I agree that emotional affairs are a big issue. People tend to think that if there is no physical stuff going on, it's no big deal, but more often than not emotional affairs are the first step to physical affairs.

I think it's great you are bringing more attention to this, especially to the church.

awannabe said...

What kept me involved in the affair was knowing that the person was the only one I'd ever experienced a bond with... the connection. The warm fuzzy feeling... and also the fear of the pain that would come from "losing him again". He was an ex boyfriend.
It didn't happen in the church, but through long distance phone calls and emails. I had already stopped believing that God would change my husband who was always angry anyway, before this happened, and into stealing and drug dealing...

rebmls said...

My parents have been married for 44 years and no mater what, including infidelity, they have always worked it out, until lately. My father has started leaving my mother at home while he goes to their mountain retreat to do maintenance, this started with a friendship with a younger female neighbor. Any time my mother says anything about this its like talking to a wall, he's even hit her for asking if given a choice between her or the friend who would he choose, saying don't try that or you might find yourself divorced, she's just a friend and I shouldn't have to choose. My father won't speak to me any more and has forbade my mother from speaking to me as well. Any ideas on ways to help him see that what he's doing is wrong without starting another war? Every time we mention this woman he gets angry and volitile and in the meantime it's killing my mother, and the other woman seems to be encouraging this even lying to allienate him from us when we tried talking to her, as she was a good friend of mine, I thought this would help boy was I wrong. Sorry I've been so long winded, but I really could use people that have been there to talk to.