Friday, November 30, 2007

11/30/07 - Just Because

Our church uses John Piper's Children Desiring God Sunday school curriculum. Each month we are asked to work with our children on learning memory verses.

Novembers memory verse is:

"For the Lord watches over the way of the rightous, but the way of the wicked will perish." Ps. 1:6

In order for Miles (my oldest son) to learn this verse we added a hand gester. When we'd say, "watches over" we'd put our hand over our eyebrow, as if to look.

The other day we were working on our verse and Luke, 16 months, joined us in the hand gester and than said, "perish" at the end of the verse. It was so cute I had to get the video camera out!

Click here to see the video!

They're never too young to get God's Word in their minds and heart!

Thursday, November 29, 2007

11/29/07 - Word of Encouragement

2 Corinthians 4:16-18
"Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."

My best friend sent this to me this morning and what an encouragement. It is a reminder to fix myself on what is not seen!

How often do we focus on what we see? Or what we don't think God is doing? We don't see what He is up to and we doubt!

I hope this verse encourages you as much as it has encouraged me this morning!

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

11/28/07 - Quiet Moments

It's very early this morning. My coffee is brewing in the kitchen and all my boys are still sleeping. My mind is racing with thoughts of God's goodness this morning.

In my walk with God I have seen Him do so many amazing things. He's a God of details and He loves to show off in those details. He is intimately acquainted with all my quirky ways! He if faithful, loving, and gentle.

God knows everyone, He sees everything, He is everywhere, and He cares about all that He knows and sees. He's powerful, mighty, everlasting, solid, unmovable, forgiving, graceful, patient, tender, and worthy of all praise and honor.

Why do I doubt Him? Why do I try to do things on my own?

I praise the Lord this morning for being the I AM, the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end, the King of all kings, my wonderful Savior and my loving God! I pray that as you and I seek to know Him more we give Him the due honor that belongs only to Him!

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

11/27/07 - DTR

I got a question about DTR on my Facebook account. The basic question was about those friendship that would be weird to DTR because the friendship wouldn't require it.

Here's my response:

"Okay, about defining relationships, I hope I can clear it up.

If you are living a lifestyle of purity in all your relationship, you won't have to DTR, your life will show how you feel.

If you are in an ambiguous relationship and your intentions are not just clear because of the way you live your life, then yes, you should define the relationship.

So when I was single I didn't have this type of conversation with all my friends:"okay we're just friends, I don't like you like that."

I just lived a life of purity and that lifestyle just defined them.

Now with my husband, before we dated, I knew we needed to define our relationship because of how he was treating me (different than other girls) and because of my growing interest I had for him.

I think that there are relationships that DTR'ing can be weird, uncalled for and just plain awkward.

Now if you notice that a girl is reacting to you in an "I like you more than a friend" way. Then maybe you should reevaluate how you treat her."

Just wanted to share in case others feel the same way!

Monday, November 26, 2007

11/26/07 - Seasons


Over the weekend I got my Christmas tree up! As I was putting up my tree, I felt like I was walking down memory lane!

Ever since I was a little girl, I have received an ornament a year from my parents. So I have a little girl holding a doll that I received when I was a little girl. When I was a teenage I collected Coke Cola items, so I have a couple of those. Plus, I have received some of my mom's old ornaments, those always remind me of my mom's trees from when I was a little girl!

Then there were those single years! I have one of three girls sledding. My parents bought those when us three girls were in our 20s and not married.

Then I have a bride and groom, from the first year we were married. The next year we received at "Parent's to be" stork ornament. Of course we have a couple of "Baby's First Year" from each year the boys were born. And finally last year, we bought a "New home" ornament. We also received a snowman family with a mommy, daddy and two kids.

My tree is filled with all those ornaments that tell the story of my life! We've started the tradition of buying ornaments for our boys and they will also have a story to pass on.

I was also reminded that life is full of seasons! Our life's seasons come and go and even if we feel stuck in a season, just give it some time and it will be a new season.

Maybe you feel like you're never going to get out of the season of being single! Well, just wait, you're season will change!

Friday, November 23, 2007

11/23/07 - Black Friday

Let the Christmas season begin!

I was listening to the radio this morning and by 8:30 or so, the parking lots were FULL at our local outlet mall...FULL! At midnight stores were open at another outlet mall and I knew someone who got stuck in traffic going there ~ at midnight!

My parents were out the door by 5 am in quest of a new bed! Mom said that the Wal-Mart parking lot was FULL by 5:30 am!

People on the radio were talking about all the stuff they're buying for their kids, I-Pods, laptops, gadgets, and trinkets.

Honestly, it just makes me weary to hear about: stuff, shopping, parking, driving, traffic! I look around my house and although we aim to live a simple life, we still have toys, books, CD's, DVD's, and other odds and ends. We have stuff and the thought of adding more makes me weary!

We've committed to buying three gifts per child for Christmas (plus stocking stuffers). We hope that this will eliminate the frenzied, gift-focused, holiday most people experience. I want my kids to know that this season is about God, His gift to us, and our response to Him.

If you're a Black Friday shopper or not, I pray that as this Christmas season is upon us, your focus in our Lord and Savior and his RICH blessings!

Thursday, November 22, 2007

11/22/07 - Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving! May God bless you today as you pause and thank Him for all His many blessings.!

Earlier this week my friend posted this great Thanksgiving post!

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

11/21/07 - Minding your own business

Yesterday I was reading in 1 Thessalonians 4

Verses 11 and 12:
Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.

There were a two things that just jumped out at me!

First: Mind your own business

How often do we just create more drama in life because we are getting our noses in other people's business? How often do we look to find places to stick our two cents in, even when our two cents are wanted or needed?

We're called to mind our own business. Focus on our own life and what God is doing in our life.

Second: Our daily life should win the respect of outsiders

I love this phrase. I know I've read it before, but the Holy Spirit has a way of showing us the scripture fresh!

Our daily life: the way we drive, the way we act at the grocery store, the way we act at school, the way we treat are family, what we say, our attitude about work, and a host of other actions show our daily life.

We want non-believers to see our life and say, "What do they have that I am missing?" We have God's salvation, love, grace, and forgiveness in our life!

What is your daily life showing? What do these verses say to you?

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

11/20/07 - Idolatry in Relationships

I read this on my friend's blog this morning and thought it was worth sharing:

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"You'll never be able to love someone with God's kind of love if you want to get something from ."

"Ever complimented someone in order to get one?"

"Ever given someone something in order to get something?"

The spirit of idolatry. . . it is the reason for conflict in relationships. It is the reason someone can say they love you, and yet you don't feel loved.

Ever felt "carved on?" - ya know, where someone has you as their "idol" (looking to you to satisfy something in their life that only God can satisfy - expectations from you when their expectations should only be in Christ.) -

Being "carved on" can even come in not so bad looking ways : compliments, gifts, smiles and facial expressions, praise, flattery... but all done to get something from you in some way or form.

When you idolize someone, you give them the power to control you. . . If someone is making you "miserable," you give them the power to make you that way. Any time you idolize, you cannot love. Knowing and abiding in God's love is the only way to love others.

"My little children, guard yourself from idols." last verse of 1st John. It's the key to loving.

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Monday, November 19, 2007

11/19/20 - The Truth

Why are we so quick to believe a lie and not seek out the truth?

This week in the paper, was an arrest post of a relative of mine...distant cousin. Well, I contacted his daughter, who is a friend as well as a cousin. I realized that I believed what I read without checking the facts. So, I wanted to support her and also give her a chance to voice what she knows. She wrote back and shed a little more light on this situation and it wasn't exactly what the paper said.

It just reminded me how often in my life I know people believe the lie. They don't do their own research. They hear or read gossip and they just blindly believe it.

They believe the gossip! They never go to the source. And we ALL know there are TWO sides to a story, never just one side! Why don't we think, "Innocent until proven guilty!"

I'll admit that I debated if I should or shouldn't contact my cousin about her dad, but I knew I wanted to go to the source. I didn't just want to believe what I read, I wanted to give her a fair chance to speak the truth. How I wish people would seek the truth more than just believe the gossip and slander.

What comes to mind in this who issues: Do unto others as you'd want done unto you.

So I think about when there is gossip or wrongful information or misrepresented information swirling around about you think, "What would I want someone to do? Spread it further, think it is truth and not ask you, or come to you and ask you?"

Let's be truth seekers!

Friday, November 16, 2007

11/16/07 - Happy Anniversary

Today is my sister, Colleen and her husband, Steve's, 5th year anniversary!

I remember four days before we met Steve, crying in my parents livingroom, "None of us are EVER going to get married. We're all going to be old maids with cats!"

Not one of my finer moments, but Colleen was 29, Lesli was 28 and I was 27. We had just moved into this large house with our own apartment upstairs from my parents. We thought this house was God's confirmation that we were not getting married and to just settle into life. It was Christmas eve when this melt down took place!

It felt like God was being so silent. We had all three taken a stand to not casually date and that meant none of us had been on a date in over 5 years!

Well, God knew what was up! Like I said, four days after my pity party meltdown, we met Steve. They were married 11 months later. I was married 8 months after Colleen and Lesli was married 3 years after me!


John and Heather, Lesli and Kevin, Colleen and Steve

Thursday, November 15, 2007

11/15/07 - Trusting God

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6

Are you trusting in the Lord fully? Are you resting in His faithful arms? Do you know that He'll take care of all those little details that cause you to worry?

I believe that we each have areas that we struggle with trusting God. Of course, I clearly remember having moments of doubts about my future marital status. Those thoughts that God wasn't pay attention to my prayers for a mate would creep in every once and awhile.

There were days that I had to daily...okay moment by moment...ask God for the grace to fully trust His plan for my life. He was always faithful to comfort me and allow me to have peace. It was a battle in my thought life, but God was faithful: when I'd draw near to Him, He'd draw near to me. (James 4:8)

If your struggling with trusting God for a mate, come close to the Lord through His Word, prayer and worship.

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

11/14/07 - Sunshine

I have wonderful, large windows in my house. Some face the east and some face south. I love the warmth the sun provides when the weather turns chilly.

On those sunny mornings when I go into my kitchen, those east windows pour sunlight in! When that sun comes in it shows all the crumbs on the table and floor, the dirty stove, dishwasher and island that all needs a good wipe down!

Now, let me say, that I think I am a pretty good housekeeper with two toddlers. I do my best to keep up with the daily demands of two kids, a house, laundry, a husband, and the ministry God has given me. At night my kitchen always looks clean. The floor gets swept, the table, island and counters get wiped down, the dishes get done (most nights) and it looks clean.

Then that sunshine the next morning shows the true state of my kitchen!

Isn't that how it is when we let the SONshine in our life? He exposes those areas that "look" clean, but really need a good spiritual wipe down. He shows us what needs to be cleaned and then He gives us the grace and strength to clean-up! Praise Him!

I love when God uses my dirty kitchen to teach me more about Him!

Tuesday, November 13, 2007

11/13/07 - Comment

Yesterday I got this question:

"Did you wait until you were engaged to have an emotional relationship?"

John and I were friends for six months before we started to date. During that time we did not have an emotional relationship. We were friends, but conversations never went past joking around, small talk, and general conversation.

The night we started to date with the intention of seeing if God would have us get married, we began to become emotional with each other; sharing our hearts, thoughts, dreams, expectations, and feelings.

Of course, just as any relationship, you become more emotionally involved and attach as time goes on.

I would like to say, that my relationship with John is not the role model of emotional purity. Not to say that John and I did not remain emotional pure, but it was God's Spirit at work.

Try to not look at the form of what we did, but see the heart we had for remaining pure for God and each other. It may look different for someone, but the heart of purity is the same.

At times I feel like people want a three point layout of how this works and I don't think it is possible, because God doesn't work the same for each of us! That's what makes God ~ God! He can do whatever He pleases, we just have to listen and obey!

Monday, November 12, 2007

11/12/07 - Dating Question

I do have a blog that I started on Xanga, before I switched over to Blogspot. Someone stopped by there and asked me this question:

"I have a question for you, and that is about how you and your to-be-husband acted while you were still dating/courting. Did you hold hands? How did you decided what was right and what was wrong as you slowly became more committed to each other?"

First of all, John and I dated with intention for 5 weeks before we were engaged. We were engaged only 3 months. So it's not like we had this long, drawn out process.

We did hold hands and kiss before we were married. He'd put his arm around me and we'd cuddle on the couch.

However, we had guidelines that we followed. We did spend time alone, but again those guidelines helped us, plus we were both VERY committed to physical purity before marriage.

I think a couple should establish this area of their relationship from day one. John and I talked about kissing (when we would kiss) and holding hands the night we started dating. We knew where we were headed from the very beginning.

I hope this helps. I understand that there are some reading who believe is saving the first kiss for the alter and I believe that each couple has to do what God calls them to!

Saturday, November 10, 2007

11/10/07 - Making A Difference

A friend posted this on his facebook account and I thought it was worth sharing!

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Once a man was walking along a beach. The sun was shining and it was a beautiful day. Off in the distance he could see a person going back and forth between the surf's edge and the beach.

Back and forth this person went. As the man approached he could see that there were hundreds of starfish stranded on the sand as a result of the natural action of the tide. The man was struck by the the apparent futility of the task. There were far too many starfish. Many of them were sure to perish.

As he approached the person continued the task of picking up starfish, one by one, and throwing them into the surf. As he came up to the person he said, "You must be crazy. There are thousands of miles of beach covered with starfish. You can't possibly make a difference."

The person looked at the man. He then stooped down and picked up one more starfish and threw it back into the ocean. He turned back to the man and said, "It sure made a difference for that one!"
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The power of a simple task!

Friday, November 9, 2007

11/09/07 - Life's little undone things

My mom wrote on her blog about some of the lessons that God has been teaching her with things in her life.

My mom is an apron wearer. She loves aprons with big pockets, so that when she finds something in one place in her house that belongs in another, she can put it in the pocket till she puts the item back in it's proper home.

One example she shared was how she left a spool of thread in her apron pocket, and then washed the apron. The thread wrapped itself around all the other clothes, which she had to spend time fixing.

The lesson I gained from this "tiny" misstep, is that in life there are little undone things: things that God has called us to do, that we don't. Things we know we should say, but we don't. Things we know we should do for someone, but don't. When these things are left undone, they can cause a bigger mess down the road!

These little undone things can turn into big problems when they're not taking care of in the first place!

Thursday, November 8, 2007

11/08/07 - Wellspring

Proverbs 4:23 Guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.

On Dictionary.com the word wellspring gave this meaning: a source or supply of anything, esp. when considered inexhaustible: a wellspring of affection.

Our hearts are the wellspring, the inexhaustible supply, of our love, affections, emotions, and feelings. This should be guarded and protected.

If you found an inexhaustible supply of money how closely would you guard this supply? You'd make sure that this supply did not get in the hands for the wrong person. You'd carefully look over the well being of this supply. You'd guard this supply!

What does: Guard your heart look like for you?

Wednesday, November 7, 2007

11/07/08 - Michael Billings

Yesterday, I was touched when I read about the life of Michael Billings (1988-2007) on Doug Phillips' blog.

This young man's life was cut short, in our human eyes, but what he did for God's kingdom is worth celebrating.

I am praying for those of you who knew this man or were touched by his life in anyway.

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

11/06/05 - Sick Kiddos

These past two 1/2 weeks I have been dealing with sick kids. It started when we went on our mini-vacation. Both boys got runny noses and colds. Then Luke's turned into a cough. I thought he was teething, because that is his normal mode of operation with teething.

Well, last Friday he was really sick and hot! He had a high fever, so I took him to the doctor, which was a first for me (taking a sick kid to the doctor that is). He had an ear infection! So off to Target for medicine.

Luke was just starting to feel better, when yesterday about 3 pm, Miles started throwing up! All over himself, me, in my hands, in a bowl...just everywhere! Till about 8 pm. He slept in bed with me!

This morning he is not himself, but he's keeping food and drink down! Phew!

Needless to say, I have not gotten much sleep the past couple of weeks!

Please pray for my boys! Thanks!

Hopefully, I'll be back tomorrow with some insights!

Monday, November 5, 2007

11/05/06 - God's Billboards

Last week I had the chance to watch this young women, who I don't know, interact with someone I do know. This young lady was part of a Christian group that requires you to have faith and belief in order to join.

This young lady had an awful attitude! She didn't want to be doing what she was doing and she rolled her eyes at me when I asked her what her name was. I was quite puzzled by her attitude and when I walked away I thought to myself, "She's not being a good billboard!"

Those of us who know, love, and serve God in different ministries are God's billboards. People who are just "driving" past our lives have a chance to see God in our actions and words.

The world needs to see Kingdom people, living as Kingdom people! What a testimony we can be of God's grace, love, faithfulness, and kindness!

What do you want them to see? What is your billboard saying to the world around you?

Saturday, November 3, 2007

11/03/07 - Emotional Attachements

Yesterday I received this comment:

"What if you're not married, but you've become emotionally attached to someone you know you're not going to marry? Is it possible to break the attachment without destroying the friendship with him and his family?"

My first question would be: Is he as emotionally attached to you, as you are to him?

If he is, then it may be a bit more difficult because of the expectations he and his family may have. The family may expect that you will be in his future and it may be hard to let that go.

He may need to know that you'd like to back away emotionally from him and it doesn't mean you don't want his friendship, it just means you don't want to be as emotionally connected to him. This can be said in a very graceful way.

If he is not emotionally attached, then a lot of the "breaking" will be on you. Letting go of your own expectations of the relationship and not being emotionally available to him.

Breaking the attachment will include not being around, not manipulating the situation to be with him or talk to him, and just backing away from the friendship. Keeping your thoughts and conversation in check to make sure you're not sharing too much emotionally.

Hope this helps!

Friday, November 2, 2007

11/02/07 - Emotional Affairs

I did a Google search on the subject: how to break free of an emotional affair, for todays post. I had a hard time finding information on what to do to break free of an emotional affair. There were lots of site on how to break free of a physical affair.

Although, I do agree that some of the same methods of breaking free can be used for a physical or emotional affair, I believe an emotional affair is more of a gray area for people. With physical contact outside of marriage, one can clearly know when the line has been crossed.

With an emotional affair the line can be a bit more shady.

If you find yourself being emotionally turned on or emotionally attracted to a person who is not your mate and acting upon that feeling, chances are high you are in an emotional affair.

Breaking free will require you to cut off this person: ENTIRELY!

If it is someone at work, then you may have to change positions, block e-mails, change your lunch hour, or ask to move to a different location in your office.

If it is a person in ministry with you, then invest your energy in another ministry, bring along your mate when you are doing your work in this ministry, take a break from that ministry, or refuse to talk to this person privately or over the phone.

If this is person is someone you met on-line, then cut off all communication, refuse to visit a private chat room with this person, go to bed with your mate to avoid the temptation of being on-line late at night, or move your computer to a more central location in your house.

It may be difficult to break free from this emotional support, but turn to God when you are struggling. Seek Him fully! He WILL give you the support you need.

Find a confidant to share your struggle with! Be HONEST, with yourself and the other person.

It may be emotionally draining to break free. You may feel like it is just too hard, but ask yourself if your marriage is worth is? Is your family worth the work it may take?

If you have found all your emotional support from this person, you may feel completely lost at times, but break free long enough to get a clear perspective on how this relationship is effect every aspect of your life: spiritually, physically and emotionally.

I've shared this article before, but it's worth re-posting: I've Had an Emotional Affair!

If you have a story to share, please e-mail me: emotionalpurity@yahoo.com

Thursday, November 1, 2007

11/01/07 - Emotional Affairs

There is this issues of emotional affairs that I just can't stop blogging about! Why? Because there are many people being effected by this type of an affair. People are deeply effected by this issue!

I have stories upon stories that affirm this statement!

Women whose husbands are receiving a little too much attention from another women they are in ministry with.

Women who find themselves attracted to a guy at church. Enough to where, they will go when he'll be there and they're not interested in time with their husband, but time with this other man.

Women who are attracted to a guy they are in ministry with (praise band, drama, prayer team, committees). Enough that they call him to talk about ministry, but end up talking about personal issues. They find themselves being secretive about this friendship to their husbands.

Women who work with a guy who pays more attention to them than their husbands. They seek time with these guys, so they can have an emotional connection/high.

Women who are wondering how to break free from an emotional affair? Wondering, how they get their heart back for their husbands.

At the core of an emotional affair (in my opinion) is this need, we women have, to feel validated. We want to feel emotionally love and have someone interested in us emotionally. We desire to have a man validate us and when our husbands aren't doing it, we think we have the right to look outside of the marriage relationship.

God is our only source of emotional satisfaction, whether you're married or single. We allow these emotional relationships or entanglements, get in our way of true satisfaction: intimate fellowship with God!

Hebrews 12: 1-2
1 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. 2 Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Tomorrow we will look at ways to break free from these emotional entanglements!