Wednesday, October 10, 2007

10/10/07 - Emotional Modesty

What does it mean to be modest?

Dictionary.com has a whole slew of meanings for modest, but this one jumped out at me:

"having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress, etc"

Showing regard...being aware of how our actions, words, and our clothes; effect others.

For women, our fellow brothers in the Lord, need us to dress modesty. When we understand that this is an area they need our help, we show them regard. We are not to be self-centered in our dress, but consider their needs and dress appropriately. Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.

(Check out the Modesty Survey for a real eye-opener on what guys consider modest!)

For men, your fellow sisters in the Lord, need you to behave modestly. We are wired to desire emotional intimacy (it's just as strong as your desire for physical intimacy) and when you treat a girl special, set her apart, flirt with her, invest your heart into her life, take her out for coffee, have her met your parents: she will begin to be turned on emotionally. Knowing that girls may have a tendency to read into your actions, be very wise in how you treat your girl friends. Be emotional modest in your actions!

Help your sisters in the Lord save their hearts for their husbands!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Your post got me thinking - It's no wonder that a girl will be so sure she's supposed to marry "so and so". I think it's just as important in dating (courting) that you remain emotionally modest - so the girl can actually "see" objectively and not get lost in her emotions while trying to determine if he is really the one she should marry. If he is not emotionally modest, she will get so trapped in her emotions that she will automatically change all her values, dreams, goals to fit his because she is sure he must love her and he must be "the one". What do you think?

Julie T. said...

Heather, I love your heart!!!!! Thanks. ALso, can I repost this on my blog?