Wednesday, October 31, 2007

10/31/07 - For Guys

This morning I was reading the Proverbs of the day. Of course, now you're wondering, "Then why is this a post for guys, Proverbs 31 is about the wife of noble character, right?"

There were four things that stuck out to me, that never have before (don't you just love reading the Bible, it's always fresh and new!)

First, verse 1 and 2 say that these are the sayings of King Lemuel's mother.

Verse 2: O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my vows.

As a mom of two boys, this jumps out at me. The heart of a Christian mom is to see her sons grow into men of God, warriors for God's kingdom, and men who will be worthy of a woman described in verses 10-31.

The way that I would say verse two, to my sons is, "O Miles and Luke, the sons I have bore and raised. The sons that God has blessed me with. O boys, listen to me, listen to God, and seek Him!"

Second, is in verse 3: "Do not spend your strength on women."

Just seven words, packed FULL of wisdom!

The third new insight I found in verse 8 & 9: "Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy."

This is where God wants you to use your strength! Speaking up and defending those who cannot do it for themselves. What a challenge for King Lemuel and for men today! These are men of integrity and who are not self-seeking!

Finally, verse 23: "Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land."

Men in order to find a wife of noble character, you must be a man of noble, respectable character. A man who will find his place among the leaders, the spiritual leaders! What a task!

Men, I hope you find encouragement in these verses today!

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

10/30/07 - Selfish vs. selfless Love

I received this in an e-mail a few days ago and I think it is worth sharing:

"I believe that the love I had for a particular guy was selfish love. I wasn't truly thinking of him but of myself. I wanted him to love me the same way I loved him. I wanted him to give only myself attention and not give any other girl attention. This I believe was selfish love."

"God has be impressing my heart that I need to have selfless love. I need to love him as a brother-in-Christ. I need to want the best for him. If some other girl will complement his character better or work with him better in God's plan for his life then so be it. Is that the kind of love God wants us to have towards our brothers-in-Christ?"

What an important love lesson to learn!

When you are considering someone, ask yourself if you are being selfish or selfless. It will benefit you both greatly!

Monday, October 29, 2007

10/29/07 Bella

Check out this movie. It came out over the weekend. We Christians need to support movies with a God honoring message!

Saturday, October 27, 2007

10/27/07 - Security

When my sister and I went to see BarlowGirl there was a group of girls sitting in front of us. One of them had a shirt on that said: BarlowGirl, on the front and on the back it said: Security.

We noticed this girl. As she was standing up, enjoying the music, she did a scan of her friends to make sure they were doing the same thing she was doing. She was looking around to make sure she wasn't alone in what she was doing.

My sister leaned over and said, "Do you notice how she's looking to her friends for security in what she's doing? Her shirt is appropriate on so many levels."

Us women, in general, do this, don't we? We look around at what our friends are doing, and if they're doing it, then we're secure.

This doesn't end in adulthood. I've seen grown women, look around to make sure what they are wearing, doing, saying; is fitting in with what is expected of them. We find security in having a relationship with a guy and when we don't have a boyfriend, we don't feel security in ourselves.

The truth is: we should find our self worth, our security, in God alone. We should look to see if our actions are pleasing Him. He should be our gage, not our friends or what the world says is normal.

I've done plenty of abnormal things for God. I've been called names (from social retard as a homeschooled teen to a Puritan for not dating), I've been teased, made to feel like my convictions are just way too Conservative and I've been on the outside of the normal societal standard. You know what...I like it out here! I like swimming up stream and looking at God for my standard.

Where are you finding your security?

Friday, October 26, 2007

10/26/07 - BarlowGirl

Alyssa, Heather, Becca and Lauren

Last night I had the chance to go to see BarlowGirl! What a great concert, but even better was to have a chance to talk to the three sisters after the show.

I have to tell you these three sisters are down to earth, God honoring, God seeking, followers of Christ. Their message of purity is powerful! Their message of modest is needed! Their love for the Lord is evident!

What was awesome, was the chance to be mutually encouraged in our ministries. These girls are walking the walk! Their hearts are just as beautiful as they are!

May God bless Becca, Alyssa and Lauren in their ministry to His children!

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

10/24/07 - Dating

What is dating?

When someone says, "I don't date." It may not mean that they will never date, it just means that they don't date just for the sake of dating.

Our culture has a system of casual dating, but I believe in dating with a purpose. Dating with a goal in mind: marriage.

I can hear your thoughts, "How do you know you are to marry someone unless you date?"

I met my husband 6 months before we started to "date". I got to know a lot about him from the sidelines of his life: being with him and his family, watching him serve the Lord, and seeing how he interacted with other people. We did not have to go out one-on-one for me to learn a great deal about the type of man he was.

The night we officially started dating we agreed we were in this relationship with marriage in mind. It did not mean we were engaged, we just were not going to go into this committed relationship lightly.

Because our intentions were clear, it allowed for conversations that served this purpose. We were married four months later.

What do you think of this pattern of dating?

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

10/23/07 - Looking for my lost money

On Sunday I went looking for some money to pay a friend. I had about 85 dollars in cash from last week and I thought I put it where we always put our cash.

I looked there, not there! I looked in my purse, not there! I started thinking about the last time I had this money. Hum?! I had it in my pocket, so I looked in my jeans, not there! I thought maybe it fell out of my jeans in my car, not there! Maybe it was "eaten" by my couch, I flipped the couch over and not there! Maybe it fell in my closet when I folded my jeans up. I took every peice of clothes out of my closet to look for the money, not there!

After much searching and much prayer, I felt defeted. I went to bed.

I woke up yesterday and was reminded that I am missing this money. I searched my house high and low, again. I called my sister to see if she remembers seeing what I did with it. My mom stopped by (to say goodbye because she's leaving for the week) and she helped me look for it, still couldn't find it!

I called the last place I was at, just to see if anyone turned in the money, of course not!

I gave up!

Then my son asked me, "Mommy do you want a drink of water?" I said, "No, I want to find my money."

Just then I looked over at this shelf in our livingroom. I searched the bowl on the shelf, but there was this DVD box I hadn't looked under. I picked up the box and there was the money!

Then it all came back to me! I put the money on this shelf, then Friday when I cleaned I moved this DVD box right on top of the cash!

Of course, God always gives me a picture of Him in situations like this.

Do I search for God this much? Do I make it my number one priority? Am I not satisifed until I find Him? Do I inlist people to help me seek Him? Do I search Him whole hearted? Do I search for Him like lost money? This is how I am to search Him, daily!

I pray for myself and for my readers that we will seek God with our whole hearts!

Monday, October 22, 2007

10/22/07 - Friends with Benefits

In our American culture we are desensitized to what is acceptable in friendships. We have this term: friends with benefits.

Those benefits may include, but are not limited to: kissing, holding hands, and cuddling.

This term basically is saying, "It's okay that we're using each other, because we have a term for it! And because we have a term for it, we can do those things without the other person thinking this is more than just a friendship."

When we experience those physical affections outside of a commitment, it is using each other. Period! There's no way around it!

When I spoke on Thursday, this topic came up, in a round about way, and I asked: Women, if you are kissing and cuddling with a guy "friend", do you think you are his girlfriend? All the girls shook their head, YES!

We are desensitize to the beauty of saving these simple acts of physical affection. God wants more for His children. He wants them/us to see how amazingly beautiful it is to save those things for a committed relationship. Then you enjoy those things with a person you know is not using you and what peace comes from that!

Remember God is a God of peace, not coNfusIon. If you have a "friendship" that confusing then maybe it's not as God honoring as it should be!

Thessalonians 5:23
23May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ (italics mine)

Saturday, October 20, 2007

10/20/07 - Ministry Highlight

After college I spent a year in Doulos Ministries. Doulos Ministry has three ministries that fall under its leadership: LeadTime, Shelterwood, and The Sky's the Limit.

I was involved with LeadTime and Shelterwood. As a Leadtime Student I spent a year being poured into as I poured out, learning more about my own faith, and I grew as a believer in ways that were amazing. How did this happen?

Shelterwood, is a group home for troubled teens. I served as a "big sister" to the "little sisters". Living with trouble teens challenged my faith in awesome ways. God used LeadTime to shape who I am, grow my faith, and trust Him with whatever He has for me.

I also learned about what real, God honoring, friendships look like. The women I lived with, are still close friends of mine. They are people I can call after not talking to for five years and pick up right where we left off.

I still have contact with some of the "littles". There's still a great deal of love in my heart for them!

If you are getting ready to graduate college and just wondering what you want to do next, check out: LeadTime. Maybe it's just what you are looking for.

Friday, October 19, 2007

10/19/07 - Seasons

We're back from our mini-vacation. It was nice to have a break from reality for two days! Yesterday, when I tried to get on line at the hotel, the Internet was not working...so mom stepped in! Thanks mom!

We enjoyed the fall colors in Wisconsin. It was beautiful!

Yesterday, after we got home, I spoke at a campus crusade group. One of the questions was: "We live in a culture that has instant gratification. How do we wait patiently?"

It made me think of the seasons. I enjoy living in a part of the country that experiences all four seasons, because it's one of God's reminders that life has seasons.

Right now, you may be in the single season, thinking that your season will never change. But remember it's a season. Chances are many of you who are single now, will be married. So enjoy this season of life.

How do you wait patiently for the next season?

My prayer for you is that you will find total contentment and peace in whatever season of life you are in.

Philippians 4 provides encouragement:
4Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!
5Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.
6Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Enjoy whatever season of life you are right now!

Thursday, October 18, 2007

10/18/07 Guest Post - A Heart Full of Stuff

Heather and family are on vacation for a few days, enjoying the beautiful fall colors in Wisconsin! Heather just phoned me, asking if I would be a guest on her blog today...my name is Julie, I'm Heather's mother! She suggested I just share anything that God is teaching me right now...that's an easy assignment, I never seem to get out of His classroom!

Heather and her two sisters moved out of our large 1902 home when each of them married. The last sister left in 2005 leaving us, the parents, alone in this monster house! When I say monster I mean six bedrooms, three kitchens, five bathrooms...it's a three apartment house! We bought this house when our daughters were still living at home and nearing the age of 30...they wanted their "own space!" After three weddings in four years, their dad and I were left with this monster house to care for on our own! So, we're downsizing to a smaller home.

Our new house is a cute little cottage style, all on one level, about one third the size of monster house! The new home happens to be right behind where we live now! We are not moving far, but we are far from being able to move! So, now we are learning, or being forced to learn how to downsize! After 36 years of marriage we have lots of "stuff" accumulated...stuff here, stuff there, stuff everywhere, and lots of space to stuff all our stuff! I just mentioned to a friend yesterday that we have so much stuff, "it's sinful!"

We went through the garage first, a three car garage, and emptied it making room for our three piles...one giveaway, one garage sale and one to keep! Next we went to the basement apartment and started emptying...now the garage is filling up again and we haven't even emptied two rooms! Yet, with each trip to the garage, I'm feeling such freedom and liberty coming from lightning our load, giving up our grip on things, and anticipating living with less!

And truly, all this stuff has very little value! Even the items I think could possibly be sold on ebay, when I check it out and see them going for $.99...well, let's just say our garbage cans are filling up also! I guess my house could almost be the fifth "Dollar Store" in town! That's sad!

So, what is God teaching me right now? That's easy! You can check it out on my blog, http://www.xanga.com/Marmee_Ann Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Matthew 6:19-21

Our heart, everything seems to get back to our heart!

Tomorrow, Heather will return!

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

10/17/07 - Emotional Purity

My family and I are away for a mini-vacation, to enjoy fall colors. So I thought I'd use a post from June! Enjoy:

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I see emotional purity as the root of physical purity. The more emotionally connected you are with someone, the more you are (or desire) physical connected!

A few years ago I weeded a garden as a work project with some friends. Well, we didn't weed the garden, we just basically trimmed the weeds. I remember when we were all done thinking that: yes, the garden did look a lot better, but I knew we didn't get all the roots so it would be just as weedy in just a matter of months.

We all have heard that God's Words directs us to remain physically pure for the marriage relationship, yet at the very core of staying physically pure is a deep conviction to remain emotionally pure.

Once a couple begins to attach emotionally; physical affection is naturally going to follow. This is even true of friends. Once you get to know someone better (even someone of the same gender) you may be more willing to give a hug, pat on the back, touch them when you talk...ect. These are all non-sexual ways of touching, but most of us are not this way with people we don't know.

So in opposite sex friendships a guy and girl can become emotionally close and start having long extended hugs, hand/food/back massages, kiss on the forehead or cheek, or cuddle together. This may be just "friendly" physically contact, but this should be saved for a committed relationship.What would you think if you saw a married woman cuddling with her best friend's husband or giving a back massage to a co-worker? If you would not do these things as a married person, why do them while you are single?

In Christian single circles I have seen how these "innocent" physically interactions are very common and accepted. Our bodies belong to our mates, not our friends.

I found that remaining physically pure for my husband a whole lot easier once I committed my life and my heart to emotional purity!

Monday, October 15, 2007

10/16/07 - Mistakes

Last night as I was telling my husband to check out the video I put on this blog. I realized that I had said, "blob", instead of "blog" in yesterday's post! All day when my wonderful, faithful readers, read my blog, they saw: blob!

I may be an author, but I am not an editor!

How awesome that when we make mistakes we have Christ, who freely bestows on us grace! Praise Him that our sins our covered by the blood. May we not take that lightly! May every decision we make, reflect a grateful, humble heart!

I am eternally grateful for His love and grace in my life!


10/15/07 - New Law Video

I am not able to embed this video into my blog. Not sure what's happening, but this video is worth watching!

New Law by Derek Webb

Saturday, October 13, 2007

10/13/07 - DTR Question

Joseph...I am enjoying your comments, so let me expand on them here.

You wrote:
"I was thinking about why there was a term for that type of thing (DTR). Do you think it is because it is necessary? Or do you think the term exists because women want it and frequently do not get it? Or do you have another opinion on its prevalence?"

Yes, I think it is important for men and women to know where they stand with each other, especially, if the actions are not coinciding with the words.

For example, guy says, "We're just friends." But then he sets a girl apart, takes her out for coffee, hugs and cuddles with her, share dreams or goals with her, and just generally makes her feel more like a girlfriend than just a friend.

Paul told Timothy (a younger man) to treat "younger women as sisters, with absolute purity." 1 Timothy 5:2.

In treating a younger woman as a sister we need to look at brother/sister relationships.

Brothers and sisters love each other, pray for each other, care about each other. HOWEVER they know where they stand with each other. There's no guesswork, no hidden agenda, no say-one-thing-treat-another-way behavior, no flirting, no hope of a life together...they are just brother and sister.

So yes, DTRing in an emotional intimate, undefined relationship is VERY important in maintain a brother and sister in the Lord relationship. It's having emotional integrity with each other and not asking for anything that doesn't belong to you.

Guys have to understand that women are wired to desire emotional intimacy and when they are ambiguous with their emotions towards a woman it can cause her to pull her focus off God, it can put her on an emotional roller coaster, and it can cause pain to her heart. So DTR...it will cause you both a lot less pain in the long run!

Friday, October 12, 2007

10/12/07 - Honesty (part 2)

Yesterday, I talked about honesty in a relationship and I got a comment looking for more on this subject.

Christian marriages should point people to God. They should reflect Christ and the church. (Eph. 5). In reflecting Christ and the church, this should begin at the beginning of a relationship.

If a guy and girl are in an undefined emotional relationship, then this reflecting is very hard to do. We never have a time of being ambiguous with God. Or shall I say He is never ambiguous with us! He sets up clear intentions! He doesn't hid His feelings for us, or keep us guessing.

Now you may say, "Well, how do you know that this will friendship will lead to a marriage relationship, so why should we try to reflect Christ and the church?"

If you are in a relationship where there is an emotional connection, then you have to be upfront with your intentions. You don't have a choice. It comes down to having emotional integrity with your sisters (or brothers) in the Lord.

You may need to have a good DTR (define the relationship) conversation with a girl you are friends with. Being honest will allow for the greatest amount of freedom, in your friendships.

Thursday, October 11, 2007

10/11/07 - Honesty

All too often I hear from young women who are in a "relationship"/friendship with a young man where they are physical, spiritual, and emotional, yet the guy doesn't publicly recognize her as his girlfriend.

This gets my blood boiling!

Why? You ask!

This is just clear as day that the guy is using the girl. He is using her to have his needs met, without having to have any commitment. He is still on the market and he is not having to have the responsibility of having a commitment.

Guys have been known to use excuses: "I am just not ready to go public with this?" "I really need to focus on God and if this gets out it will shift my focus." "Isn't this more fun being a secret?"

These are just excuses to use a young lady! When two people commit to date with the purpose of marriage in mind, there should be no reason to keep it a secret! I remember the night my husband and I started dating, said he wanted to go to the highest point in our town and shout it to the whole world.

If you are in this type of situation, I'd love to chat with you via e-mail: emotionalpurity@yahoo.com

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

10/10/07 - Emotional Modesty

What does it mean to be modest?

Dictionary.com has a whole slew of meanings for modest, but this one jumped out at me:

"having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress, etc"

Showing regard...being aware of how our actions, words, and our clothes; effect others.

For women, our fellow brothers in the Lord, need us to dress modesty. When we understand that this is an area they need our help, we show them regard. We are not to be self-centered in our dress, but consider their needs and dress appropriately. Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.

(Check out the Modesty Survey for a real eye-opener on what guys consider modest!)

For men, your fellow sisters in the Lord, need you to behave modestly. We are wired to desire emotional intimacy (it's just as strong as your desire for physical intimacy) and when you treat a girl special, set her apart, flirt with her, invest your heart into her life, take her out for coffee, have her met your parents: she will begin to be turned on emotionally. Knowing that girls may have a tendency to read into your actions, be very wise in how you treat your girl friends. Be emotional modest in your actions!

Help your sisters in the Lord save their hearts for their husbands!

Tuesday, October 9, 2007

10/09/07 - Speaking Overview

Thank you all for your prayers yesterday. I sure felt them!

Yesterday, was one of those days with my kids that left me feeling wiped out. It's as if they knew I had to go speak last night.

An hour before I left I was trying to figure out if the talk I had written was really the talk I should give. I pulled out my normal talk and looked it over. Thankfully, I had a 25 minute ride to the church. I did a great deal of praying and calming down after my crazy mommy day.

I took this road that I didn't mean to take, which meant that I was going to have to turn left on a very busy road and this was during rush hour! I thought, "UGH! Heather pay attention. Lord, please clear the road for me so I don't have to wait and wait to turn left."

I pulled up to the intersection and it was totally clear. There was not a car to the left or right. I laughed and said, "God if you can take care of traffic on this road, I totally trust that You know what I am to share tonight!" I had total peace.

Here was my dilemma from last night. I was speaking to a homeschool mom's group, yet teens had been invited. So, my talk was geared towards mom's, with a dash of talking to the teens.

I got there and there were so many teenagers that showed up. There were far more teens than moms! My friend Lori was there with me and I said, "I have no idea which talk to give!" Really, 10 minutes before I spoke I had no idea what I was going to do.

So, I got up to speak and laid out both talks and just went for it. I'd share a little from this talk, then a little from that talk and back and forth! I touched on all the points I wanted to talk about: purity, integrity, emotional affairs, the blessings of emotional purity, and how teens should treat each other to maintain emotional purity.

Praise the Lord because the response was overwhelming and positive!

Thanks again for praying, I needed it and felt them!

Monday, October 8, 2007

10/08/07 - Speaking

Tonight I am speaking at a local church and I have to admit I am more nervous about speaking tonight, then I have been in a long time. Why, you ask?

For the last 6 years I have compiled a folder full of note, stories, and talks. Whenever I have spoken, I normal give the basics of emotional purity. I have given the same talk a dozen times, but as I was preparing to speak tonight, I felt like God was asking me to to focus on other issues.

The other night I was up late just pouring over my notes and typing up a "new" talk. I felt like God wants me to focus on: Emotional Purity, Emotional Integrity and Emotional Faithfulness.

The last issue of faithfulness is in response to the growing rise in emotional affairs I am seeing and hearing about. This is what makes me a bit nervous to talk about. It's an issue that has not been addressed as much as I believe is needed, so tonight I will be speaking directly about emotional affairs.

So if you think about me today, please pray for the Holy Spirit to speak through me and that I will speak His words and not mine!

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Saturday, October 6, 2007

10/06/07 - Emotional Integrity

What is emotional integrity?

The heart of emotional purity is having emotional integrity with those we come in contact with. It's understanding that if you are single, emotional integrity would be keeping your emotions for the mate God has for you. It would including not asking for time, energy, feelings, conversations, or emotions that don't belong to you.

I had plumb line questions I would ask myself when I was single:

1) Would I treat him this way if he was married?
2) Would I talk about this with him if his wife was sitting here with us?
3) Would I think about him this way if he were married?

As I interact with single guys, I'd filter my actions and thoughts through these questions. It helped me maintain emotional integrity with my guy friends. Even as I got to know my husband, before we were dating, I treated him this way.

After we committed to each other, he told me there were times when we were "just friends", that he felt me pull away from him. I told him that I was just protecting my heart!

Maintaining emotional integrity in my relationships allowed for the greatest amount of freedom in friendships and in my walk with the Lord!

Friday, October 5, 2007

10/05/07 - Seeking God

There is a song from Kari Jobe Band called: The More I Seek You

"The more I seek You, the more I find You.
The more I find You, the more I love You.
I want to sit at Your feet,
Drink from the cup in Your hand,
Lay back against You and breath,
Feel Your heartbeat.
This love is so deep,
It's more than I can stand.
I melt in Your peace.
It's overwhelming. "

My heart feel so full of this message today. How I long for the children of God to seek Him so passionately, not holding anything back from seeking Him fully!

When I was in college I was a lukewarm follower of Jesus for a short season of my life. I was riding the fence. (I was misrable!) I clearly remember the night God asked me, "Are you going to be hot or cold, because you are being lukewarm and I am going to spit you out of my mouth?"

That was life changing night!

Since that night, I have sought God with everything in my power. I have laid aside whatever it takes to know, to really know, the heart of my God. I long for His purity in my life. I long to please Him, with my life, my blog, my family, my relationships, my thoughts, my actions, and with my whole being.

The blessings that come from this total devotion to God are indescribable! There are no words.

If you are struggling with waiting on God and trusting Him with your future, seek Him with everything! Fight for your relationship with Him. Make it your number one priority and just watch God bless you with peace that only He can give!

Thursday, October 4, 2007

10/04/07 - Tagged

I got tagged by The Difference Now and I will share 8 random facts about myself!

1) I love english muffins with peanut butter and honey-nut cream cheese, I could eat them every morning!

2) I have lived in: Alabama (was born there), Texas, Illinois, Wisconsin and Colorado.

3) I love going to bed by 9:00 pm.

4) I have an oval shaped diamond ring...got engaged on Easter, so it's shaped like an Easter egg ;-)

5) Yesterday, I changed four poopy diapers.

6) I'm not very crafty and I really don't like to bake.

7) I've moved 17 times in my life! Hopefully, we'll stay put for awhile!

8) I never take off my earrings, unless I am changing them, I always wear silver loops.

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I read this quote on my friends' facebook page:

"Dance with God and He'll let the right guy cut in."

Hope you enjoyed learning a little bit more about me!

Wednesday, October 3, 2007

10/03/07 - BarlowGirl

Today I received this interview with BarlowGirl and I thought this was worth sharing:

"You don’t date…how might God orchestrate a husband for you?

Alyssa: We really felt God challenge us in our life just to say, Yes, the world says that you have to date around. You have to date a lot of different people to find out who you like or find out who you’re compatible with. And we really felt God challenging us to say, Girls, would you be willing to give me your single years? Would you be willing to set aside dating a bunch of different people right now to just give your heart to a bunch of different people? Would you be willing to find out what true love is? So we we've discovered this journey of saying, Yes, God, we’ll give you our hearts now in this season. We won’t date around. We’re going to give you our hearts. We’re dedicating these years to you and we'll find out who we are and what a Proverbs 31 woman is.

In the long run, I want to be a good mother. I want to be a good wife. I don’t just want to be a good girlfriend. We’re looking long term. Instead of what’s going to satisfy me now, I’m looking ahead at tomorrow and honoring my husband all the days of my life — starting today, starting before I even know him. I want to honor him with my heart. I want to honor him by guarding myself as if we were married now.

We’ve seen so many people walk this out, our brother being one of them. Our brother and his wife had never dated other people, ended up becoming good friends in college. They have three beautiful children. We notice the one thing that really carries a lot of marriages through is a foundation of friendship and a foundation of a deep love. No matter what they face, they’re best friends first. That’s something that we really desire. We just haven’t found the right one yet. Right ones. Plural. There’s three of them. [laughs]"

These are three, beautiful, young women who have committed themselves to remaining emotionally pure for their husbands.

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

10/02/07 - Light Bulb

Has your night light bulb ever burnt out? Well, ours did and for about three nights we were without a night light in our bathroom. For three nights I stumbled around in the dark, hoping not to hit my chin on any object on the way to the bathroom. When I'd sneak in the boys room before bed to check on them, I could see nothing!

Yesterday, I picked up a pack of four of these little bulbs.

What a difference! I could actually see when I had to get up in the middle of the night. That little bulb provides enough light to light the whole bathroom, hall, and the boys room.

We live in a very dark world. We are called to be a light and it amazing what a little light can do. Light will always win over darkness! Darkness can never over take light.

(Matthew 5: 14-16 "You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.)

We are called to live a life set apart, different, than the world. You may feel like you are the only one who has a desire to remain emotionally pure. You may feel like friends don't understand you. At time, you may wonder if saving your heart is really worth it!

But be the light in this dark world. Help people who are stumbling around, knocking into things, hurting themselves, and clueless how to get where they need to go. Be a light today for Jesus!

Monday, October 1, 2007

10/01/07 - Why?

I got a message on my facebook account from this gal who said:

"We (her friend and herself) are trying to just seek God first and be content but it is really hard. Especially with so many people around seeming to find a guy without any effort. I am convinced that it has to do with priorities. It seems that those for whom it is not a great priority to find a spouse they seem to find someone without any problems but those who really want it have to wait and wait and wait..."

I love her honesty! When I was single I'd say that those who don't want to get married, get married and those who really want to get married have to wait and wait and wait!

Why? Why does this seem to be the way God operates?

Who knows the mind of God? Not me!! But I can say this, God will use whatever He wants to draw us close to Him. He is give us (place on our hearts) a desire and then ask us to trust in His perfect timing!

You may have friends no desire to get married and then end up married. I guarantee they have other things that God uses to draw them closer to Him. It's all about total dependence upon the Father. Each of our paths will look different, but contentment is what we are all striving for!

Be encouraged today that God is using things in your life to draw you to Him!