I received these questions in an e-mail:
"I was wondering your views on the dangers of such romance (novels and movies). Is too much, or any, dangerous because they feed wrong and distorted views of love? Is some ever okay in a small amount, or does it ever differ after you marry? Do you find there's any difference between the so-called "Christian" romance novels vs. the regular ones?"
I have not read a romance novel in years! Why? Because I remember reading them and being very discontent with being single. Even Janette Oak books caused me to long for something I didn't have (and her books are very clean and wholesome). Plus, they gave me a false idea of what was romance. By the way, God's idea of real romance is far more exciting than anything you can read in a book!
I do remember in my early 20's thinking, "I should at least read one romance non-Christian novel in my life." Why, who knows!?! I don' think I got through the second or third chapter, it was awful.
As women, we are emotional, we're in love with romance, relationships, love, and everything associated with those areas. Reading romance novels can cause someone to be very discontent with being single. If someone is unhappy in their marriage, they may compare their husband to these men in the romance novels who say the perfect thing (they say the perfect thing because they are written by emotional women!)
Can I say a blanket answer for each women? No. But,I would warn women that romance novels can be just as dangerous in our lives as pornography is for men. Hope this helps!