Thursday, April 26, 2007

What is your purpose?

Do you life with intention?

Last fall I heard a speaker talk at our MOPS group about raising godly children. When we had broken up into our discussion groups she came in and said, "I forgot to tell you to live with intentions. Be an intentional mom, wife, Christian."

That just stuck with me. To live with intention!

You know when God starts to impress something on your heart it pops up everywhere.

I have been reading a book with the sub title: Being the Intentional Mom Your Family Needs. I have been doing a bible study with the main goal is to be a woman of intention. I just keep hearing the word intention!

How often do we passively live life? We just go with the flow and put no thought into our day beside: What should I wear? What do I have to get done today (school or work)? What am I doing this weekend?

To live with intention would be to set goals: daily goals, yearly goals and life long goals.

I have a list hanging in my kitchen of my daily goals. Each day I have different goals to get done: laundry, dishes, cleaning, time with my husband, kids and bible time. Those are my goals each day. (Which I still have to finish one today...laundry...I really don't like laundry!).

Then we, as a family, have yearly goals. Physically, emotional, mental, spiritual, family and misc. goals. These include things like: have company over once a month, go to one retreat, go away as a couple for a night or two and read at least three books this year on a certain topic. We go over these goals once a year and they just set a vision of where we are headed as a family and a couple.

Finally, there are your life long goals. Our list would include: raise God-honoring children, homeschool and disciple our children, always be working on having a happy, fun marriage, strive to live a life pleasing to God and serve our church in the ways the Lord leads.

These goals help me (us) live with intention. I don't want to get to the end of my life and just feel like I passively let life go past. I want to know that I walked the path that I was called to walk! And not just walk it, but run on it and find joy in the things the Lord has for me.

Living with purpose will be living with intention!

As a single your goals will look different and you may not need the book: Being the Intentional Mom your Family Needs...but your book title would be: Being the Intentional Single God Wants You to Be!

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Old Maid

AHHH...I just have to laugh at Sunny's comment that she received. If you read the comment from the last post you'll follow my thoughts.

A 12 year old girl said she was an OLD MAID! Well, Sunny you didn't say how old you are, but I am sure your not an OLD MAID!! I was 28 when I got married, my middle sister was 32 and my oldest sister was 30!

When I was 12, if someone who have told me that I would not be married for SIXTEEN years I would have sat down and had myself a good ol' cry. About 12 years old was when the obsession to have a boyfriend started. I planned my wedding, named my kids (which by the way are not the names of my children!) planned, planned and planned some more, for a marriage I dreamt about.

I remember my first crush: Kyle Splann, can you believe I even remember his name. I met him at camp when I was about 9 or 10. It starts so young.

So I can see how a 12 year old would THINK someone not married by 25 or so is an old maid. This message is for those 12 year old kids of the world who think marriage, boyfriends, weddings are the all in all.

Us women are silly, aren't we? We look to the things of this world to satisfy. This month my son's memory verse is: Do not love the world or the things in the world 1 John 2:15a. We are not to love what is the idea of happiness, love or joy. We are to love and be concerned about finding peace, happiness, joy and love in our relationship with the Lord.

Sunny: God bless you as you lead a study using my book. The new edition has a TON more study questions. May God be powerful in your testimony of faithfulness in waiting on His perfect timing!!

On a side note: I found the box of old radio interviews I gave when the book was first released in 2001, 2 years before I got married, 4 years before kids. How fun to listen to! The lady asked me if I had kids and in my somewhat unsure voice I said, "Lord willing someday!"

I remember wondering if anyone would ever marry the girl who wrote "Emotional Purity". Who would dare come that close to me ;-) AHHH, God is so good and faithful! I was listening to the CD as I was feeding my two children dinner and I looked at them and thought, "How blessed am I!"

Then my oldest son, Miles (2 years old) said to the radio, "Hi, Hi, Hi Mommy." He must have wondered how I got in there ;-)

God bless you all as you seek His purity for your life!

Thursday, April 12, 2007


Tomorrow my book is set to be released. The new edition arrived at my door on Tuesday. I was cleaning and just doing my "mom" duties, when I discovered a package at my door. I had not even really thought about getting to see the book early. But there it was.

I opened the package, sat down and cried. God is so faithful. He has used me, me: Heather, to help His children.

When you are in God's will there is such peace, no shame and pure joy! I fully believe in the message of my book. In the joy of seeking purity in ALL areas of your life. I have seen how God has revealed His will to me.

I pray that God will make my message clear. That He will use this new edition to powerful impact His children. That people will read with an open heart and an open mind expecting GREAT things from God.

Lately the message I have felt lead to share to singles is to fully give all your attention to God.

1 Cor. 7:32-35:
"I would like you to be free from concern..."

Where does concern take place? Your mind. God wants your mind to be free for His business. Are you keeping your thoughts on God? Are you spending too much time day dreaming about relationships, guys, marriage...ect? He wants you to be free from concern! Why

"An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs- how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of the world - how he can please his wife- and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted"

Devoted: loyal, committed, dedicated, constant and faithful

"to the Lord in both body and spirit. But the married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world- how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord."

Undivided: exclusive, whole, total and entire

This is what God desires of His single children.

Are you spending too much time thinking about what your name would sound like next to his last name? Are you planning your wedding, with no man in the picture? Are you day dreaming about the new single guy at your church? Are you naming your children with Mr. Friend?

All these thoughts take our focus off of God and we are not as free to be concerned about His affairs.

Thursday, April 5, 2007


I spoke today at our local community college. WOW! It was great. I felt so full afterwards. I was praising God the whole way home for using me in this way. I mean He didn't have to choose me, He could have used anyone, but He choose me to get this message out there to His people.

The book was written with college students in mind, however when I self-published it seemed to attract the homeschool community. I am praying with the new edition set to be released next Friday that it will be picked up in college circles all over the place. I pray God will spread this message where He wants it to be spread!

If you heard me speak today and are visiting my site, I'd welcome any questions I may have left unanswered. I felt like I went really fast, but I had so much to say.

Any questions I'll get, I'll post about and hopefully have more to say on my blog!